If you know and follow traffic signals then apply the same with your children.
Nurturing and caring is a divine feeling.
But all good things need to have limitations.
As a child, touches the rattle himself, he is getting his grip on things..
...
albeit slowly.
If the rattle falls on his nose he cries and you smother him with kisses.
Later, when he crawls over, he thinks he can play throw ball with the rattle.
So you buy him a soft hand ball.
Safe and cute with rainbow colors.
The above is a normal example of a good caring parent.
As the child overcomes milestones, it is human behavior to start expecting much from your child.
Comparisons crop up and you goad your child rather than acknowledge her accomplishment.
You are slowly creating a personality type and have no clue of what conflicts your child is going to get into.
There are no rules in parenting but only choices.
All of us need air to breathe and a little space for oneself.
Just as you feel a great need to walk back, after an exhausting shopping, similarly your child needs space too.
Having your hands full with grocery items, the weight seems well forgotten in the silence experienced while walking.
You notice the color of the pavement, the new paint on the blocks nearby and also calmly decide how to pay your installment.
Children go through a lot of stress and experience fatigue too.
They look upon us for guidance and seek help.
If your child is the clingy type, then start home trials.
Arrange a few interesting things near his play area and watch over from behind.
Next day, watch from a distance and then leave him alone.
Do not over react if he is cranky.
This is your first lesson on giving space.
School goers need space.
Homework needs to be done methodically in seclusion.
Only react to questions.
If your children's friends come over, depending on the age, arrange a lot of fun activities and supervise minimally.
Do not insult the childin front of others.
If kids hit each other, give them space to adjust and bond.
The best correction is done during sleep time.
Concoct a story expressing the wrong doings.
Potty training is space lesson too.
Let them do it in private and flush toilets.
Give them space to eat the sandwich and ignore the mess.
Table manners can be learnt later and now let them relish the delicacies.
Teenagers require a lot of space.
Be understanding and do not spook into everything.
Over protective parents either make their children rebels or meek.
You want neither and hence suggest gently without interfering.
If rules on discipline are set then do not make adjustments.
Space is required to breathe, to think, reason and enjoy.
Children require space too but mostly are surrounded with supervisors and hence lack ex-pression.
Leave them free and let them grow in spirit and experience.