She Dumped Me And I Have No Idea Where To Go From Here
She dumped me. I don't know what to do. I feel sad, hurt, and extremely miserable like my heart has been ripped out of my body and stamped into the ground. I'm sick to my stomach and can hardly even think straight. I feel depressed and just want to sleep, but even that seems impossible as I lay there tossing and turning, unable to shut my mind off long enough to drift off into a quiet slumber.
I pace around the room, back and forth like a caged animal, replaying the entire relationship in my head over and over trying to come up with answers, but I can't find any. I end up talking to myself trying to understand everything. If someone saw me, they would think I was a little loco. I feel lost without her, like my entire world will never be the same. I worry I'll be alone the rest of my life. I worry I'll never find anyone as good as her and that no one will love me again.
Does this sound familiar?
These kinds of thoughts and emotions are all too common after a breakup occurs, especially if you're the one being dumped. In some cases, you may know exactly why she dumped you. For example, if you cheated on her or did something else that you realize was a mistake and that drove her away.
However, many times a relationship can end and you don't really understand why. You don't get a good explanation. These can be the hardest and most confusing to accept and get over.
If she dumped you, there could be many reasons that aren't clear to you. The reason it can be so confusing is because when your girlfriend breaks up with you, she won't want to hurt you anymore than is necessary by telling you she is leaving. The common mistake both men and women make is thinking, "If I don't tell them the reasons, it will be easier for them to move on." This actually makes it much harder for the person being dumped because not knowing and having to sit around being confused is worse than knowing, even if knowing is temporarily more painful.
Another reason you may not understand why your girlfriend dumped you is because she may not know herself. There may not be one specific event she can point the breakup to. Rationally she may truly think you're a great guy, but she's just not "feeling" it for you anymore.
Women are driven by emotion. If she's not "feeling" an attraction for you anymore, then rational thoughts and logic won't mean anything to her. Men are usually much more straightforward when it comes to breakups. Usually when they're done, they're done.
Women, on the other hand, will often stay in a relationship a long time even when they stopped feeling it for you a long time ago. They do this because they don't want to hurt you, not realizing they are hurting you worse by staying if they're not really into you. When this happens, a breakup can be difficult to understand because the underlying reasons might have happened months or even years ago or over a long period of time and you didn't even know anything was wrong.
You may be thinking to yourself, "She dumped me. She was my world. I can't live without her." This is entirely false. You CAN live without her and you WILL be ok. You need to fight your way through the depression.
One of the best ways to do this is to invite a group of friends to go do something fun. Try to make it something active that will keep your mind off things. Just having other people around will help a ton, so you'll have to fight the urge to just lay around in bed being miserable. When you go out with friends, focus on having fun. Don't make the entire night about sitting around and discussing your relationship.
Stay away from drugs and alcohol. They will only make you feel worse in the end and can cause a whole lot worse problems for you. Stay positive. There's a very good chance your girlfriend will miss you and want you back at some point. However, don't just sit around waiting for her.
Take control of your life, be happy, improve yourself both mentally and physically, and do things you've always wanted to do, but never had time for when you were dating. When you move on without her, that's when she'll want to move back in with you.
I pace around the room, back and forth like a caged animal, replaying the entire relationship in my head over and over trying to come up with answers, but I can't find any. I end up talking to myself trying to understand everything. If someone saw me, they would think I was a little loco. I feel lost without her, like my entire world will never be the same. I worry I'll be alone the rest of my life. I worry I'll never find anyone as good as her and that no one will love me again.
Does this sound familiar?
These kinds of thoughts and emotions are all too common after a breakup occurs, especially if you're the one being dumped. In some cases, you may know exactly why she dumped you. For example, if you cheated on her or did something else that you realize was a mistake and that drove her away.
However, many times a relationship can end and you don't really understand why. You don't get a good explanation. These can be the hardest and most confusing to accept and get over.
If she dumped you, there could be many reasons that aren't clear to you. The reason it can be so confusing is because when your girlfriend breaks up with you, she won't want to hurt you anymore than is necessary by telling you she is leaving. The common mistake both men and women make is thinking, "If I don't tell them the reasons, it will be easier for them to move on." This actually makes it much harder for the person being dumped because not knowing and having to sit around being confused is worse than knowing, even if knowing is temporarily more painful.
Another reason you may not understand why your girlfriend dumped you is because she may not know herself. There may not be one specific event she can point the breakup to. Rationally she may truly think you're a great guy, but she's just not "feeling" it for you anymore.
Women are driven by emotion. If she's not "feeling" an attraction for you anymore, then rational thoughts and logic won't mean anything to her. Men are usually much more straightforward when it comes to breakups. Usually when they're done, they're done.
Women, on the other hand, will often stay in a relationship a long time even when they stopped feeling it for you a long time ago. They do this because they don't want to hurt you, not realizing they are hurting you worse by staying if they're not really into you. When this happens, a breakup can be difficult to understand because the underlying reasons might have happened months or even years ago or over a long period of time and you didn't even know anything was wrong.
You may be thinking to yourself, "She dumped me. She was my world. I can't live without her." This is entirely false. You CAN live without her and you WILL be ok. You need to fight your way through the depression.
One of the best ways to do this is to invite a group of friends to go do something fun. Try to make it something active that will keep your mind off things. Just having other people around will help a ton, so you'll have to fight the urge to just lay around in bed being miserable. When you go out with friends, focus on having fun. Don't make the entire night about sitting around and discussing your relationship.
Stay away from drugs and alcohol. They will only make you feel worse in the end and can cause a whole lot worse problems for you. Stay positive. There's a very good chance your girlfriend will miss you and want you back at some point. However, don't just sit around waiting for her.
Take control of your life, be happy, improve yourself both mentally and physically, and do things you've always wanted to do, but never had time for when you were dating. When you move on without her, that's when she'll want to move back in with you.
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