Alright when I saw the article about Pornhub last night giving a donation to the Susan G Koman foundation it set me off.
I am not finished with all of the warning bells it started ringing.
I am about to unleash all of my fury on the porn industry for the effect it has had on men.
First of all, women are not sex objects.
We are capable, intelligent and worthwhile human beings.
Second, you men who watch porn really need to examine why you do so.
In the past year and a half when I was dating men I noticed one thing about the two men who admitted to me that they watched porn.
They did not know how to hold a conversation.
I was kind of taken with one of the men at first.
He had a very handsome picture on the website that I met him on and he knew a lot about internet security.
I was taken with him until I talked with him on the phone.
He sounded mentally challenged and went on and on about how he was still friends with all of his ex-girlfriends.
He told me they were all highly intelligent.
How did he know that? Well, they had all been cocktail waitresses when he was a bar manager.
I am sorry but that does NOT reveal a high IQ.
Although considering he sounded mentally challenged, in comparison they were probably a bit higher in IQ than he was.
I was tempted to tell him about some of my guy friends, some of the ones who are billionaires and millionaires and a para-olympic champion.
I have a lot of wonderful guy friends but thank God none of them are bar tenders.
Anyhow he said he watched porn a lot.
I could understand why.
Why would any woman in their right mind want to date someone who could only talk about his ex-girlfriends the entire date? Yaaawwwnnn...
The other man was great on the first and second date but he was rude when I called him on the phone.
You see porn stars don't bring up conversational topics that don't interest you.
In fact they don't talk to you at all.
If I was talking with this man about something that he had no interest in, he promptly told me so and then hung up.
My current boyfriend is always available to talk.
We are constantly checking in with each other and talk for hours at a time most days.
We talk about absolutely everything and even when we disagree we still keep talking.
I didn't realize till yesterday how valuable it was to have a boyfriend who knows how to hold a conversation.
One interesting thing about him is that he doesn't watch porn.
He has a life and is highly intelligent.
He listens to any topic that I consider worthy of conversation and engages in banter.
Do we have issues? Of course we do, I am not going to lie, but when we do have issues we both talk and more importantly we listen.
Try doing that with a porn star.
Bet you can't!