Are you ready to move on after a breakup? Are you still stuck on your ex or wallowing in what might have been? Take the quiz to see what stage you are in and what type of relationship you're ready for.
1.
What I'd really like to eat is: a.
either nothing or six tubs of chocolate ice cream.
b.
water-I'm trying to lose some weight so my ex will take me back.
c.
my ex's heart on a plate or a dozen energy drinks so I can stay awake to stalk them.
d.
nothing-why should I bother, I ate yesterday.
e.
whatever I like whenever I want to eat it.
f.
a romantic meal with my new lover.
2.
My sleep is: a.
either restless or endless b.
irrelevant-I need to stay awake to plan how to get my ex back.
c.
filled with dreams of how to take revenge on my ex.
d.
hard to tell because I stay in bed all day.
e.
pleasant-no one's snoring or hogging the covers.
f.
blissful-I'm either snuggled up to my new lover or having dreams of what could be.
3.
My thoughts are: a.
hazy-my brain feels numb.
b.
packed with ideas of how to get my ex back.
c.
filled with plans for inflicting pain on my ex.
d.
either constant reruns of what happened or visions of a lonely future.
e.
constructive and clear.
f.
hopeful and empowered.
4.
My work is: a.
hard to get to and impossible to focus on once I'm there.
b.
unbearable since it takes time away from planning how to get my ex back.
c.
a nuisance since I'd rather be tormenting my ex in some way.
d.
an annoyance since I'd rather stay in bed and watch talk shows.
e.
finally getting sorted out after I'd neglected it.
f.
soaring since I've become so confident.
5.
My friends are: a.
comforting but constantly giving me unhelpful advice.
b.
constantly telling me to stop all the calls and presents I give to my ex.
c.
worried I'm going to get arrested for some of my aggressive actions.
d.
trying to get me out of the house, but what's the point? e.
so much fun to be with.
f.
really supportive of my new relationship.
Now add up how many a, b, c, d, e, and/or f answers you have.
a __ b __ c __ d __ e __ f __ Mostly "a"s? You're still in the Shock Stage.
Take care of yourself right now and forget about finding a new lover.
Mostly "b"s? You're in the Hope Stage and too fixated on your ex to consider a new relationship.
Mostly "c"s? The Anger Stage is too aggressive a state to even consider connecting with someone new.
Mostly "d"s? The depression of the Despair Stage makes it hard for you to even take care of yourself.
Mostly "e"s? Great-you've made it to the Indifference Stage.
Enjoy your independence and consider having a bridge relationship with someone who's fun.
Mostly "f"s? You've made it all the way to the Growth Stage.
You're ready to enter into a new relationship without compromising who you are or being distracted by the past! To get help for getting unstuck, have a look at our new e-guide.
It's full of great ideas for how to move on.