Are you wondering what sex means for a relationship? Wondering if you should make him wait for sex? Afraid that having sex with a man automatically translates into a serious relationship? These are questions every woman asks herself when deciding whether or not to have sex with someone.
They are questions that have individual answers depending on the relationship but these tips can help you answer them.
The first thing to understand is that times have changed.
Sex no longer means that you are destined to be married and will spend the rest of your life with someone.
If you choose to wait until marriage that is a decision you make for yourself and not one that society makes for you.
This can be both a good and a bad thing, because having sex too soon can ruin a relationship or it can start a relationship where one wasn't wanted.
What you really want to do is set boundaries and discuss with your partner what having sex will mean.
For most men sex and relationships are two entirely different things and one never has to depend on the presence of the other.
But you should make sure to talk with your partner about why you have decided to wait or the fact that simply because you have decided to have sex does not mean that you are in a relationship.
The decision to wait for sex can be a good one because it lets you know that he is entering into the relationship for you and not for what he can get from you.
This doesn't necessarily mean waiting until there is a ring on your finger but you should wait until you feel comfortable and secure in the relationship.
For some men, women who do have sex too early in the relationship are women that they do not want to spend their lives with.
This is because they will often feel like you are "easy" and not mother and wife material.
By waiting you show him that you have self-respect and that you find sex to be a big step and a big decision.
Whether or not this is always true, it is how most men feel in regards to sex.