Desperate times often call for desperate measures. However not all of them will be successful. So if you are shouting out "I want to save this marriage now" and need to know what to do to turn your marriage around, then there are steps that you can take action upon today, that will start have a positive impact upon your failing marriage.

One of the first and most important things you should do if you really want to save this marriage now, is to stop being needy. It is not good to be pleading with your partner to take you back. All this does is to push your partner further away from you. From now on in, you really need to change the way that you think. This means removing all emotional thoughts from any decisions made from here on. For example, how many times have you said something to your partner in the heat of the moment, only to really regret it later? This is emotion taking over. What you need to do instead is quite the opposite. You need to try to make sure that all decisions are made calmly, rationally and positively, however difficult this maybe. This is because when your partner sees that you are behaving in a calm and rational manner, this will evoke a positive reaction from them. This is because a positive action on your part equals a positive reaction on their part.

Another way to steer your marriage in the right direction is to make yourself more unavailable to your partner. For example, if you have always wanted to take up a hobby or interest, and didn't have the time, then do it! Taking this type of action will have several positive effects.

A) It will give you time and space away from the marital situation to think about how you are going to change your marriage. As well as some much needed "me time"

B) It gives your partner some breathing space, and will, also make them realise that you are not as dependant on them as they thought you were.

Another step you can take towards saving your marriage is to respect your partner's needs and wishes. This does not mean giving in to them, but this is about hearing what they have to say and taking action upon this, even if this may well mean a trial separation. You can accomplish a lot more by agreeing with your spouse than if you were constantly arguing. If you can show your spouse that you are putting their needs first, before that of your own, then this will go along way towards repairing the relationship.

So you are in a situation where all you think about is how can I save this marriage now before it's too late? Then by following some or all of these tips, you will indeed start to get your marriage on the right track today. However your marriage didn't get to the stage it is now overnight and it probably can't be fixed completely overnight. It is ok just reading about ways to save your relationship but you are the only one who can do anything about your situation.