The Easiest Way to Teach Others How to Treat Us
We all know that we should "do unto others as we would have them do unto us" but what about "doing unto others as they did unto us"? I am not talking here about any kind of revenge but about a way of stopping a person from repeatedly doing something which makes you feel bad.
How often, in any kind of relationship, we complain that someone keeps doing or saying something without any regards of how badly it influences our feelings? And it does not matter how many times you will complain, plead, get angry, react, etc...
it never works.
Of course, our level of expectations should be so deep that our own energy (or body language) 'demands' from others how to treat us.
And it often happens without us even realizing it on a conscious level.
As a matter of fact it always works, even if you are treated badly you can trace it back to your own perception of yourself.
So, obviously, for whatever reasons, there is a message for you: the strength of your beliefs about yourself has...
hmm...
some flaws or points of weakness.
I recommend meditations as it reveals the problems and the solutions.
The closer our relationship with someone the more issues we may have about being treated not the way we like.
And the harder it usually will be to make the other person see it without growing tensions and many misunderstandings, especially if they do not do it on a 'conscious' purpose.
From my own experience I can say that sometimes it becomes almost impossible to make another person see it through your own eyes and comprehend what they do to you.
Well, probably the solution I came up with through trial and error was not the noblest one but it did work so well back then and every other time I feel the need to implement it.
It is very simple but because of involved emotions probably not easy at all.
We simply do to them what or how they did something to us.
The challenge is to not to treat it as a revenge but as a valuable lesson which is going to benefit them as well as you.
Sometimes you will have to wait patiently for the right opportunity to present itself but nevertheless it will be worth all the waiting.
Sometimes you will decide to let it go as you will take pity on them till the next time when you are ready to change the way you treat yourself.
A very important aspect of the whole exercise is to make them aware why you behaved in that manner.
Most probably they have really forgot how they treated you in the first place or even did not noticed the fact that you had been hurt by them in any way.
The point is to remind them when they are hurting themselves.
They will remember this for a long time!
How often, in any kind of relationship, we complain that someone keeps doing or saying something without any regards of how badly it influences our feelings? And it does not matter how many times you will complain, plead, get angry, react, etc...
it never works.
Of course, our level of expectations should be so deep that our own energy (or body language) 'demands' from others how to treat us.
And it often happens without us even realizing it on a conscious level.
As a matter of fact it always works, even if you are treated badly you can trace it back to your own perception of yourself.
So, obviously, for whatever reasons, there is a message for you: the strength of your beliefs about yourself has...
hmm...
some flaws or points of weakness.
I recommend meditations as it reveals the problems and the solutions.
The closer our relationship with someone the more issues we may have about being treated not the way we like.
And the harder it usually will be to make the other person see it without growing tensions and many misunderstandings, especially if they do not do it on a 'conscious' purpose.
From my own experience I can say that sometimes it becomes almost impossible to make another person see it through your own eyes and comprehend what they do to you.
Well, probably the solution I came up with through trial and error was not the noblest one but it did work so well back then and every other time I feel the need to implement it.
It is very simple but because of involved emotions probably not easy at all.
We simply do to them what or how they did something to us.
The challenge is to not to treat it as a revenge but as a valuable lesson which is going to benefit them as well as you.
Sometimes you will have to wait patiently for the right opportunity to present itself but nevertheless it will be worth all the waiting.
Sometimes you will decide to let it go as you will take pity on them till the next time when you are ready to change the way you treat yourself.
A very important aspect of the whole exercise is to make them aware why you behaved in that manner.
Most probably they have really forgot how they treated you in the first place or even did not noticed the fact that you had been hurt by them in any way.
The point is to remind them when they are hurting themselves.
They will remember this for a long time!
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