This is a question that most men are desperately looking for answers to.
Most men are very frustrated and embarrassed that they are actively seeking out whatever solution to their problem.
If you are a guy and you keep asking yourself this question, then you need not worry because in this article, I will be answering your questions and providing solutions that you can apply instantly.
So what is the single reason why you can't stay hard? The main problem is called Erectile Dysfunction.
This is simply a situation whereby a man cannot maintain an erection long enough for intercourse.
As simple as that definition sounds, the problem is way much bigger and serious.
Research has it that erectile dysfunction occurs in about half of the men worldwide and is a growing problem commonly associated with middle aged men.
Gone are the days whereby by it usually was classified as a problem for old men.
Erectile dysfunction affects men of all ages and has been known to occur in boys of 18 years old.
The following are major reasons why you cant stay hard.
You are thinking too much As a guy, we are constantly under pressure to perform exceptionally in the bedroom.
Think about it.
You want to perform so well and then brag to your friends later on.
What you do not know it that this added pressure is really causing more harm than good.
The truth is that when you are constantly thinking about your sexual performance and how you will blow her mind, it affects you negatively.
It brings on unnecessary pressure on you.
Instead of relaxing and enjoying such a beautiful moment, you are usually worried about

• The fact that you will not perform better in bed and satisfy her well
• You are concerned about your body image and your weight
• You are concerned that your penis will not measure up to her standard
• You are worried about premature ejaculation and not lasting long enough

These and many more thoughts are what runs through your mind constantly.
And with such pressure comes a negative effect.
These anxieties cause your body to be a state of "flight or fight".
Since your partner is obviously not a threat, then the effects are usually negative towards your achieving an erection.
Simply put, your mind can have a big impact on your ability to get aroused.
The mind is the 'communication hub" of your body.
When your mind receives relaxed signals then your ability to get aroused increases.
But when you are constantly worrying about pleasing your partner, then it becomes impossible.
How to overcome your worry

1. Communicate with your partner.
   Talk to your partner and explain all the worries that you have.
   By talking to her you get to easy the worries and anxieties.
   It also has the tendencies to draw you closer to her and make your relationship stronger.
   
2. Seek other forms of intimacy.
   There are other ways that you can enjoy an intimate relationship with your partner.
   Opt for massage and cuddling.
   You can even have a warm bath together.
   The aim is to take your mind away and keep you in a relaxed state.
   
3. Talk to a therapist.
   Seek professional help from a therapist who has experience in sexual matters.
   By seeking help you learn to be comfortable with your sexuality.
   This will greatly help you eliminate or reduce your panic attacks as they happen.
   
4. Try other forms of distraction.
   Put on some romantic music.
   Turn down the lights.
   Get into the mood with some sexy movies.
   Taking your mind off will help you.
   

Finally, do not stress yourself.
Don't take it out on yourself over your performance in bed or your body image.
By getting help and taking the following advice, you can get your sex life again and have fun while doing it.