REAL Stories From Couples That Had a Hard Time Trying to Conceive - And a Little Advice From a Mothe
Nothing hurts more than when you have tried EVERYTHING you know to conceive your very own child and everyone around you is getting pregnant without even trying. When I was in that stage of my life I found that real stories of women that had a hard time trying to conceive really helped when I felt like it would never happen to me. After experiencing the emotionally charged support of these stories first hand, I would like to share my own story of conceiving after a grueling 3 years in hopes that it might help someone like they helped me.
My husband and I started trying to start our family in my late 20's, and while I never thought that my age would've been a problem, several different doctors disagreed. I mean, after all today's 30 is the new 20, right!? While the doctors did say that my age was by no means a huge factor, they did think that it may have been impacting on my infertility. The one thing that I did learn after all my doctor's visits is that most doctors have their medical knowledge and when that doesn't pan out they are left clueless.
I remember not being able to sleep the nights before our doctor's appointments just thinking of what it would be like if we walked in there and were told that that there is no possible way for us to conceive.
I cried before just about every single appointment and my thoughts ran a muck - I was a total mess! I just felt like no matter what I did and no matter how hard I tried a baby just wasn't in our future.
I won't lie, my husband was very supportive throughout most of this horrible journey, but every person has their limits. When he made it clear that he had given up two and a half years into this journey it felt like I was sinking in a deep, cold and barren ocean and someone had just dropped an anchor on top of me.
Most people, men especially, have no clue what it is like to constantly try to conceive and think of nothing else besides conceiving, and then hear people get pregnant without even trying. I never could stand having to smile and be happy for them when deep inside I was just furious! After all, how is it fair that I give EVERYTHING to conceive a child, and here they come along and get pregnant without even lifting a finger!?!? I would need an abacus to count how many times my friends, couples I knew, and just swarms of other people around me became pregnant, we would celebrate the news, and then I would go home and cry my eyes out.
On the other hand, I could use one hand's fingers to count the number of real stories of women that had a hard time trying to conceive. Sometimes, life just isn't fair!
After all the hooplah, I'm happy to be able to say that I have given birth to 3 amazing kids. In the end, you've got to have courage and determination. For me, I was the only person that was still fighting to conceive a child near the end, while my family, my husband, my friends, and doctors had given up a long time ago. It may take a while to happen, but believe me; chances are that if you stick with it, you WILL get your present!!
My husband and I started trying to start our family in my late 20's, and while I never thought that my age would've been a problem, several different doctors disagreed. I mean, after all today's 30 is the new 20, right!? While the doctors did say that my age was by no means a huge factor, they did think that it may have been impacting on my infertility. The one thing that I did learn after all my doctor's visits is that most doctors have their medical knowledge and when that doesn't pan out they are left clueless.
I remember not being able to sleep the nights before our doctor's appointments just thinking of what it would be like if we walked in there and were told that that there is no possible way for us to conceive.
I cried before just about every single appointment and my thoughts ran a muck - I was a total mess! I just felt like no matter what I did and no matter how hard I tried a baby just wasn't in our future.
I won't lie, my husband was very supportive throughout most of this horrible journey, but every person has their limits. When he made it clear that he had given up two and a half years into this journey it felt like I was sinking in a deep, cold and barren ocean and someone had just dropped an anchor on top of me.
Most people, men especially, have no clue what it is like to constantly try to conceive and think of nothing else besides conceiving, and then hear people get pregnant without even trying. I never could stand having to smile and be happy for them when deep inside I was just furious! After all, how is it fair that I give EVERYTHING to conceive a child, and here they come along and get pregnant without even lifting a finger!?!? I would need an abacus to count how many times my friends, couples I knew, and just swarms of other people around me became pregnant, we would celebrate the news, and then I would go home and cry my eyes out.
On the other hand, I could use one hand's fingers to count the number of real stories of women that had a hard time trying to conceive. Sometimes, life just isn't fair!
After all the hooplah, I'm happy to be able to say that I have given birth to 3 amazing kids. In the end, you've got to have courage and determination. For me, I was the only person that was still fighting to conceive a child near the end, while my family, my husband, my friends, and doctors had given up a long time ago. It may take a while to happen, but believe me; chances are that if you stick with it, you WILL get your present!!
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