How to Address Wedding Invitations for Guests with Kids
- 1). Address the outer envelope to the parents. Even if the children are to be invited only the formal titles of the parents should be on the outer envelope.
The exception to this rule is an invitation that only has one envelope. In this case, the outer envelope is the only envelope and the children should be included if they are invited. If the couple only has one child, address the child by name. When there are more children, address it to the couple and "family." - 2). Address the inner envelope.
If children are not invited, only address the parents informally. There is no need to mention the children if they are not invited. The lack of including them will speak for itself.
For children who are invited they should be included in this informal inner envelope. Each child should be mentioned by name.
For example, a family of four should be addressed on the inner envelope as, "Mr. and Mrs. Smith, Jane and Jack." - 3). Fill in the number of invited guests on the RSVP card. This will help ease any further confusion as to who in the family is and is not invited.
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