'Get OUT!' she screamed at the top of her lungs. It was the last straw. She had tried loving him for how many years and the story was always the same. Sure he was a good guy, sometimes even a great guy. Yes, he cared deeply for her. They actually both knew that they loved each other. But she was at the end of her rope. She was sick of feeling unappreciated and he didn't know what would make her happy anymore.

This scenario is not from a movie or television show, its real life. Every day sort of stuff that men and women struggle with to keep their lives together. A simple ticked off moment leads to regrettable statements and declarations of hate. Is there a way to wipe the slate clean or is it completely hopeless?

If there was a way to recapture your ex lovers mind, heart, and soul, would you be interested? No matter how screwed up the situation may be, would you want to take a chance to turn back time or start all over? Most would say, 'yes.'

Even when a relationship looks good to family and friends, there is most likely a great deal of pain and heartache behind the scenes. We've all been there. You already know how hard it is to even wake up and roll out of bed in the morning. You leave your radio off on your way to work because every song is a painful reminder of him. You can't even bear to eat at the same restaurants you took her to. And if that isn't bad enough, you have to cope with the loss of friends and family that are on "her side."

Believe it or not, most, as in almost all, relationships can be salvaged. There are so many reasons for breaking up infidelity, loss of passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and even serving a prison sentence. Shake your head in disbelief, but there is hope. Couples reunite every day regardless of the situation.

Most of us probably know couples who have gotten back together, even after facing the worst of situations or after some horrible circumstance. So what's the deal? Is there some hidden recipe, a secret to reigniting passion and recapturing loss love?

If it were that simple, it would be bottled or packaged and marketed big time. Simple truth, most people who get back together did so by accident. Not a collision type accident, rather accidently because they did the right things at the right time. You can also create the circumstances for your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend, husband or wife, gives you a second chance.

There are a number of typical mistakes people make when they are back in the presence of their ex, unfortunately, the situation usually turns ugly because there is no clear plan of what you are supposed to do. Panic sets in and you become defensive and argumentative. The typical mistakes include:

• You try to convince him, he is the love of your life

• You apologize profusely for everything

• You promise to change for good this time

• You try to get them to see that it wasn't really you fault

• You even beg her to take you back

With every word uttered, regardless of the intention, the more and more defensive, angry, and distant he/she becomes. Don't blame yourself, it's not like we were taught this in school.

Let's take a look at one example. You want to know how to get your ex boyfriend back without getting rejected over and over again by him. The number one rule to get him back is to stop letting him feel like he can have you whenever he feels like it. If he knows he can have you when he wants to, then why would he try to get back with you or even want you back? Think about it, men want what they cannot have and if he knows he can have you whenever he feels like it then he will never want to get back with you.

If it helps, think about it as a formula: supply plus demand equals value. If something is scarce, less available, it has a higher demand and value. Men value what they have to work for. If something, like you, is scarce, then he will want it. So for this situation, you need to increase your value to him but being scarce and creating demand. Start today; make yourself scarce by not calling him. Just leave him alone. He will only start wanting you when he knows he cannot have you and other men want to be with you.

You want to know how to get your ex girlfriend back? If women thrive on attention and appreciation, show her that you mean business and start with just the simple things. Acknowledge the everyday little stuff; it will get you much farther ahead in your relationship or get you back into the relationship for your second chance. Couple the attention with making yourself scarce; see how quickly you might also be in demand!