This seems to be the cry from most of our loved ones in the world of spirit. I have lost count at the number of times when spirit has communicated they no longer want their loved ones to mourn by their graveside. I understand that from the mourners point of view, this is very much like a sense of duty that seems to keep them going there time and time again. Perhaps this sense of duty and longing is what they believe is their cord of attachment to the person that lays there.

I often hear from spirit that each individual tends to use this visitation as a sort of confessional, where they can unburden themselves from issues that may perturb them in the present moment. Sometimes it seems of course that one would spend the time at the graveside and consider they are making up for lost time. Time they should have spent with their loved ones when they were incarnated upon this plane of existence. Perhaps, it is then a sense of guilt that will keep the person visiting the grave. Of course there are various reasons and each is to their own and makes their own way. It is not for us to judge, but I often find myself trying to explain to those that stand there, to look at another avenue for their grief. To recognize the power in communication, and to show them - they have that power at their disposal if only they could awaken.

It amazes me how many individuals fail to recognize that spirit is around them and very much as alive as they were when they lived upon the material plane. They are so desperate to make themselves known again, to tell the individual or individuals whom are stricken with grief - they live on, they wish you to celebrate their birth to a new life and not the illusion we call death. Often, they come around you when you stand by the grave, talking aimlessly about your life now and the problems you face on your own. They truly wish to unburden you and let you know the bond of love are certainly not broken in anyway.

As the spirit throws away its earthly vessel, it continues on in the world of spirit, unsheathed of its material imperfections. It leaves behind the physical body because it has no use for its heavy energy. The spirit is light, free and expresses itself in a new plane of existence. You stand, perhaps alone talking to mortar and believing that your loved one lies sleeping until it is time for you to be reunited. If only you could realize that you can communicate with your loved ones on a regular basis. If only you realized there exists no separation from you and the bonds of love remain intact. You could touch upon that void of reckoning, to reason that you are indeed an eternal soul who remains ever so connected to the living energy that permeates all things. You would realize that you no longer have to stand at the grave and weep.