This is a brutal crime of crimes and unfortunately has so many ramifications that its disastrous consequences often are not felt for many years until the victim has grown older.
For many adults it is difficult to understand that a person of authority, a relative or even a friend could ever inflict such obscene behaviour on a child.
Therefore when the child reports the infraction the parents often dismiss the child as being offensive in their charges and the child is often punished for reporting the incident.
This leaves the child with conflicting feelings about the perpetrator who may inflict even greater suffering on the young victim as a consequence of reporting the incident.
Victims of sexual crimes no matter the age or gender are often treated with such coldness that one has to wonder at the humanity of the adults present.
The stigma of being a sex abuse victim often leads to further invasiveness by unsympathetic young people as well as adults.
The victim will often lead a life of sexual shame, prostitution, become a pedophile themselves or commit suicide if they are not treated for the depression that may follow up adding more salt to the wound.
A friend of mine, who will remain anonymous, was brutally abused as a child: six months of age in fact up to her teenage years.
Then when she got married her husband started abusing her on the night of the honeymoon.
Her self esteem was so destroyed it did not dawn on her to leave him and find help elsewhere.
Later she developed associative identity disorder.
In plain English this means she is traumatized by her own mind with numerous personalities invading her consciousness repeatedly.
In a five minute conversation she could switch numerous times.
Then at other times she would be fine.
Her outlets were writing short stories, beautiful poetry and painting.
Her paintings were beautiful, vivid and simple, yet highly revealing of her trauma.
My prayers go to her daily and always.
God bless my wee friend.
Another friend was sexually abused by a sister when he was a teenager but being so quiet he did not know how to draw away because his emptiness was so real.
This infraction into his psyche has caused untold damages to him being unable to have suitable relationships with women always finding running to be preferable to not being able to relate with lovely interesting women.
The scars on his body from self mutilation stand testament to his pain but the scars visible through his eyes stand as a witness to what happens when selfish people take advantage of others.
While he is relegated to psychiatric care his sister is oblivious to the damages she has caused living a grand life but still tormenting whenever she can.
Sinister brutality at its best and I pray that someday he will gather the strength to confront his ghosts and be able to repair his life thus enabling him to live with peace fruition and happiness.
The above stories indicate how family can be just as dangerous as strangers in the unknown world of everyday life and unfortunately families have more power to inflict torture than strangers do.
What is wrong with a world where so much energy is focused towards sexual satisfaction without regard for others? When one is a victim in one way there is a cloudy vacancy within the senses caused by trauma and unfortunately adds fuel to a raging inferno with even more disastrous results.