Father"s Make A Difference
Do you believe that the majority of emotional, mental and relationship problems that people deal with in adult life originate from childhood events? (Emotional wounds, patterns and conditionings in our behavior) The best way to solve many of the problems of adults is to bring up children in a more healthy way, so we don't have the problems in the first place.
As a child we are like beautiful, fragile vases and when dropped; break.
Yes, the vase can be glued back together but it will never be exactly the same again.
That is what happened to us.
In most cases, it was not an intentional thing that has happened.
It was done out of IGNORANCE and DENIAL.
The result is that ALL OF US struggle with emotional and mental issues that we don't need to be struggling with had we been brought up better.
We are all broken vases, so we need to be gentle with ourselves, not expecting perfection because we can't get there.
Once the vase was broken it will always show the blemishes, those cracks and chips from the times it was damaged.
We as fathers must stand up as men, admit our ignorance & denial and educate ourselves, supporting each other and work together toward becoming more effective successful fathers.
Here is an example of where we might be ignorant and dropping our vases.
To receive our drivers license today we must study the rules of the road, take a test, then practice by driving with a licensed driver for a year.
Eventually we obtain our drivers license, basically saying that we're qualified to operate a motor vehicle and we are now educated and have received some basic training, passing the minimum standards exam proving that we should not be a hazard to society and our community.
THAT is to simply operate a MACHINE.
NOT raise another human being! My question to you is simple: Why do many of us fathers NOT place enough value on parenting skills training and education as a society? (False pride?) Correct me if I am wrong but raising children without "dropping the vase" would make a much bigger, positive impact on society and our family, our ENTIRE future, our lives and the generations to come.
FALSE PRIDE is the father of IGNORANCE and DENIAL is its mother.
Ask yourself: In what ways am I dropping the "vases" in my life? Ignorance: The state in which one lacks knowledge.
Denial: A refusal to comply with or satisfy a request.
As a child we are like beautiful, fragile vases and when dropped; break.
Yes, the vase can be glued back together but it will never be exactly the same again.
That is what happened to us.
In most cases, it was not an intentional thing that has happened.
It was done out of IGNORANCE and DENIAL.
The result is that ALL OF US struggle with emotional and mental issues that we don't need to be struggling with had we been brought up better.
We are all broken vases, so we need to be gentle with ourselves, not expecting perfection because we can't get there.
Once the vase was broken it will always show the blemishes, those cracks and chips from the times it was damaged.
We as fathers must stand up as men, admit our ignorance & denial and educate ourselves, supporting each other and work together toward becoming more effective successful fathers.
Here is an example of where we might be ignorant and dropping our vases.
To receive our drivers license today we must study the rules of the road, take a test, then practice by driving with a licensed driver for a year.
Eventually we obtain our drivers license, basically saying that we're qualified to operate a motor vehicle and we are now educated and have received some basic training, passing the minimum standards exam proving that we should not be a hazard to society and our community.
THAT is to simply operate a MACHINE.
NOT raise another human being! My question to you is simple: Why do many of us fathers NOT place enough value on parenting skills training and education as a society? (False pride?) Correct me if I am wrong but raising children without "dropping the vase" would make a much bigger, positive impact on society and our family, our ENTIRE future, our lives and the generations to come.
FALSE PRIDE is the father of IGNORANCE and DENIAL is its mother.
Ask yourself: In what ways am I dropping the "vases" in my life? Ignorance: The state in which one lacks knowledge.
Denial: A refusal to comply with or satisfy a request.
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