Ravit"s Coming Out Story
Before I'll start my story here is the background for it: My name is Ravit, and I live in Israel.
My story took place one year ago. At that time, I was 19, serving the Israel Army, and only out to my closest friends that I had since childhood. They were the only one who knew about my girlfriend at that time.
I had a date with my girlfriend in a restaurant and we celebrated there with her friends. The ironic thing is that I had a handbag where I put my cell phone when usually I just put it in my pocket.
Lying to My Mother
I had to lie to my mother and so I told her I was with a friend who was home from the army. I didn?t tell that friend that I used her as an alibi because I couldn't think of any reason for my mother to contact her and verify that I was with her.
Somewhere in the middle of dinner I sat on somebody else's chair. When he came back he handed me my bag and I felt a vibration. My phone was ringing. It was that friend I was supposedly with.
She hung-up before I answered. Then I noticed that - she called me two times before and my mother had called me--a lot! Some people that I serve with in the army called, including my commander. That usually means that a) something happened b) there is something that I don't know how to call it in English, but basically is when they call all the people from his section and make sure they are all available in case of emergency.
Why Were They All Calling
I contacted the army people and indeed that was just a check. Then I contacted my friend and she told me that my mother called her because she couldn't reach me (because I didn't hear my phone because it was in my bag!) and because I didn?t inform that friend that I?m seemingly with her, she told my mother that she didn't know where I was!
So, I had just one person to call - my mother who now knows that she?s been lied to. I called her, and I could hear the anger and worry in her voice. I told here that I'm o.k. and that I am in a restaurant with friends, it's just that she doesn?t know these friends.
Do I Come Out to My Mother?
To make, what is a long story, short - I spend all of the next day thinking about what I should do and consulting with my friends. I knew that I could either make up another lie or come clean about everything and basically come out to her.
I decided that the lies must end. The problem was that I knew I couldn?t tell her face to face. It was too hard!
And so, after a lot of thinking I decided to write her a letter and to come clean about everything. After I had a little pep-talk with my girlfriend, I gave her the letter that evening when I got home from the army. A really good friend of mine even came back with me to my house and waited with me until my mother read my letter.
The end of the story is basically good ? my mother accepted me and my sexual preferences (even though in some little place in her heart she is still hoping for a son-in-law I guess), and now I don't need to lie to her anymore!
Written by Ravit
My story took place one year ago. At that time, I was 19, serving the Israel Army, and only out to my closest friends that I had since childhood. They were the only one who knew about my girlfriend at that time.
I had a date with my girlfriend in a restaurant and we celebrated there with her friends. The ironic thing is that I had a handbag where I put my cell phone when usually I just put it in my pocket.
Lying to My Mother
I had to lie to my mother and so I told her I was with a friend who was home from the army. I didn?t tell that friend that I used her as an alibi because I couldn't think of any reason for my mother to contact her and verify that I was with her.
Somewhere in the middle of dinner I sat on somebody else's chair. When he came back he handed me my bag and I felt a vibration. My phone was ringing. It was that friend I was supposedly with.
She hung-up before I answered. Then I noticed that - she called me two times before and my mother had called me--a lot! Some people that I serve with in the army called, including my commander. That usually means that a) something happened b) there is something that I don't know how to call it in English, but basically is when they call all the people from his section and make sure they are all available in case of emergency.
Why Were They All Calling
I contacted the army people and indeed that was just a check. Then I contacted my friend and she told me that my mother called her because she couldn't reach me (because I didn't hear my phone because it was in my bag!) and because I didn?t inform that friend that I?m seemingly with her, she told my mother that she didn't know where I was!
So, I had just one person to call - my mother who now knows that she?s been lied to. I called her, and I could hear the anger and worry in her voice. I told here that I'm o.k. and that I am in a restaurant with friends, it's just that she doesn?t know these friends.
Do I Come Out to My Mother?
To make, what is a long story, short - I spend all of the next day thinking about what I should do and consulting with my friends. I knew that I could either make up another lie or come clean about everything and basically come out to her.
I decided that the lies must end. The problem was that I knew I couldn?t tell her face to face. It was too hard!
And so, after a lot of thinking I decided to write her a letter and to come clean about everything. After I had a little pep-talk with my girlfriend, I gave her the letter that evening when I got home from the army. A really good friend of mine even came back with me to my house and waited with me until my mother read my letter.
The end of the story is basically good ? my mother accepted me and my sexual preferences (even though in some little place in her heart she is still hoping for a son-in-law I guess), and now I don't need to lie to her anymore!
Written by Ravit
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