How To Get Your Boyfriend Back When He Is Dating Another Girl
Question:
My boyfriend and I broke up and Ive heard from other people that hes dating again. I realize now how much I miss my boyfriend and I want him back. Is there anything I can do to get him back even if hes dating someone else?
Answer:
Naturally this is a major concern for you, but it's not the end of the world. I'm going to give you 4 tips that will help you get back with your ex boyfriend, even if he's in another relationship.
Coming to the realization that your ex boyfriend has moved on and is involved with someone else is devastating. However, a key to getting your boyfriend back is to not let the breakup affect your emotions. Instead, try your best to surround yourself with positive and uplifting things. Also, you'll need to wait things out at the beginning of your boyfriend's new relationship. So as tough as that might be for you to deal with, it is the only way to get your ex boyfriend back.
Now as I promised, here are 4 techniques you can use that will help get your ex boyfriend back, even if he's dating someone else.
Redirect Your Anger
What's the first step to redirecting your anger? Direct all that hurt and anger you feel into something more constructive. At present your ex boyfriend is in the budding, blossoming, honeymoon period with his new found love, but whatever you say to your ex will most likely be ignored at this point.
But don't discount the fact that simply because he's in a fresh relationship that he still doesn't care for you. Nevertheless, having said that, I'm certain that the only thing that can make you feel better at this point is if your ex broke up with his new girlfriend and came crawling back to you.
I think it's fair to say that your ex boyfriend won't come running back to you without a little work. Accept the fact that your ex boyfriend is presently dating someone else. Realise that your relationship with him has come to an end. That will not happen immediately.
But it can happen again. Take a moment to close your eyes and envision yourself back together with your ex boyfriend. The benefit to this kind of positive thinking is that it will position you in a positive mindset. And this will greatly assist you when it comes to getting your boyfriend back.
At the end of the day you want to change your attitude and your personality so that when he sees you again, he sees a new and improved you. Because let me tell you, when you come across as a total mess, nobody is going to be attracted to you.
Disappear From His Life
After you've taken the time you need to accept the breakup and your boyfriend's new relationship, stay away from him and drop out of sight for a while. Do this by getting involved and getting your mind off the relationship.
Anything that might assist you feel much better is a good start: visit family, see some friends, go out and do whatever you enjoy. If there's something else you like doing, dive right into it. Also, if you've wanted to take a trip somewhere, why not do it now?
The biggest mistake you can make and it's one that a lot of women make is to secretly keep tabs on you ex boyfriend. Don't contact him in any way or try and figure out what he's been up to.
Do not ask anyone about him. The less information you have on your ex boyfriend at this time, the happier you'll be. Do you know what? Hes going to start wondering about you. And that's exactly where you want him to be.
Avoid Pushing Him Away
Often times, women tend to mess this up. They repeatedly call, text or email their boyfriends. They drive past their ex boyfriends house, or job, or school, and literally hang around to see whats going on. They badmouth and slander their ex boyfriends new girl, even when they no nothing about her. What this does in reality is make you look petty and jealous. This actually hurts your chances of getting back together with him.
Do Nothing
That's right, I said it, do absolutely nothing. From a psychological standpoint, your ex boyfriend will either see this as a sign of maturity from you, or he'll assume you've moved on and found someone better. And as mentioned before, since you haven't kept him in the loop it's going to shake him up a little. The reality of the situation is that he expected the breakup to affect you. He thought that you'd be crying over him and begging to take him back, but instead you haven't done a thing.
Let me take you into the mind of your ex boyfriend for a second:
"When I break up with a girl I expect her to beg me to take her back. And do you know what the worst thing is? I hate it when they won't leave me alone. The last thing I want is to be constantly harassed and bugged after a breakup.
But I'll tell you something. When an ex girlfriend stops chasing me and falls off the map, I start to think about her a little more and wonder what she's up to. I even start to wonder if I made a mistake by breaking up with her".
As you can see, sometimes doing nothing can be quite powerful when it comes to getting your boyfriend back, and the best part is that it requires no effort at all on your part.
My boyfriend and I broke up and Ive heard from other people that hes dating again. I realize now how much I miss my boyfriend and I want him back. Is there anything I can do to get him back even if hes dating someone else?
Answer:
Naturally this is a major concern for you, but it's not the end of the world. I'm going to give you 4 tips that will help you get back with your ex boyfriend, even if he's in another relationship.
Coming to the realization that your ex boyfriend has moved on and is involved with someone else is devastating. However, a key to getting your boyfriend back is to not let the breakup affect your emotions. Instead, try your best to surround yourself with positive and uplifting things. Also, you'll need to wait things out at the beginning of your boyfriend's new relationship. So as tough as that might be for you to deal with, it is the only way to get your ex boyfriend back.
Now as I promised, here are 4 techniques you can use that will help get your ex boyfriend back, even if he's dating someone else.
Redirect Your Anger
What's the first step to redirecting your anger? Direct all that hurt and anger you feel into something more constructive. At present your ex boyfriend is in the budding, blossoming, honeymoon period with his new found love, but whatever you say to your ex will most likely be ignored at this point.
But don't discount the fact that simply because he's in a fresh relationship that he still doesn't care for you. Nevertheless, having said that, I'm certain that the only thing that can make you feel better at this point is if your ex broke up with his new girlfriend and came crawling back to you.
I think it's fair to say that your ex boyfriend won't come running back to you without a little work. Accept the fact that your ex boyfriend is presently dating someone else. Realise that your relationship with him has come to an end. That will not happen immediately.
But it can happen again. Take a moment to close your eyes and envision yourself back together with your ex boyfriend. The benefit to this kind of positive thinking is that it will position you in a positive mindset. And this will greatly assist you when it comes to getting your boyfriend back.
At the end of the day you want to change your attitude and your personality so that when he sees you again, he sees a new and improved you. Because let me tell you, when you come across as a total mess, nobody is going to be attracted to you.
Disappear From His Life
After you've taken the time you need to accept the breakup and your boyfriend's new relationship, stay away from him and drop out of sight for a while. Do this by getting involved and getting your mind off the relationship.
Anything that might assist you feel much better is a good start: visit family, see some friends, go out and do whatever you enjoy. If there's something else you like doing, dive right into it. Also, if you've wanted to take a trip somewhere, why not do it now?
The biggest mistake you can make and it's one that a lot of women make is to secretly keep tabs on you ex boyfriend. Don't contact him in any way or try and figure out what he's been up to.
Do not ask anyone about him. The less information you have on your ex boyfriend at this time, the happier you'll be. Do you know what? Hes going to start wondering about you. And that's exactly where you want him to be.
Avoid Pushing Him Away
Often times, women tend to mess this up. They repeatedly call, text or email their boyfriends. They drive past their ex boyfriends house, or job, or school, and literally hang around to see whats going on. They badmouth and slander their ex boyfriends new girl, even when they no nothing about her. What this does in reality is make you look petty and jealous. This actually hurts your chances of getting back together with him.
Do Nothing
That's right, I said it, do absolutely nothing. From a psychological standpoint, your ex boyfriend will either see this as a sign of maturity from you, or he'll assume you've moved on and found someone better. And as mentioned before, since you haven't kept him in the loop it's going to shake him up a little. The reality of the situation is that he expected the breakup to affect you. He thought that you'd be crying over him and begging to take him back, but instead you haven't done a thing.
Let me take you into the mind of your ex boyfriend for a second:
"When I break up with a girl I expect her to beg me to take her back. And do you know what the worst thing is? I hate it when they won't leave me alone. The last thing I want is to be constantly harassed and bugged after a breakup.
But I'll tell you something. When an ex girlfriend stops chasing me and falls off the map, I start to think about her a little more and wonder what she's up to. I even start to wonder if I made a mistake by breaking up with her".
As you can see, sometimes doing nothing can be quite powerful when it comes to getting your boyfriend back, and the best part is that it requires no effort at all on your part.
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