It is all a matter of balance really, give and take, positive and negative.
Because opposites attract, most couples are made up of a giver and a receiver.
It is not anyone's fault really because in the world we live in there has to be both.
It is impossible to be a giver if there were no takers to receive and a receiver would not have anything to take if there were no givers.
Most marriages that are troubled have these giver and receiver roles firmly fixed.
In marriages that are happy, these roles will fluctuate between the partners regularly, depending on where the need is greatest.
Where does most of your energy go during a normal day? It can be quite exhausting to give constantly without ever spending time to recharge.
More and more there are people who run themselves down trying to make things work only to have their health suffer in the long run.
There are a lot of people who complain about partners who do not provide what they need.
It seems to me that in order for a giver to get what they need, they have to first accept that they are poor receivers.
In order to be a good receiver it is imperative to be open to receive.
If your first instinct is to dive in to help a situation then you will have the furthest to go.
The best place to start is to relax into allowing people to do things for you.
There are many decadent things one can do to pamper oneself.
massage, spa treatments, holidays alone, to name a few.
The grand thing is there is no need to go to such lengths unless these things appeal to you.
If you simply change your thinking from having to be in control of everything to just allowing things to happen you will begin to notice your world changing before your eyes.
The key to being open to receive is simply to be.