The break-up was long in coming and followed a complicated pattern in its build-up, so the restoring process cannot be expected to be simple or easy.
It also stands to reason that the healing process should follow a pattern rather than a schedule (where you can "diarise a get-back-together party") so to speak.
You will want to work on your own emotional issues at your own pace, not at a forced pace and the same applies to your ex.
Complete healing takes time and cannot be scheduled.
Over the millennia humankind has overcome so many obstacles to the point where he controls much of what goes on around him.
Indoor climate, technology, vehicles, roads & cities, where wild animals can & cannot be, pest control, daylight at night, living in comfort below, on and above ground no matter the environment, even living in space, we dam rivers and control the water flow...
and OH YES! we make many mistakes too and the results of our efforts at control are often disastrous.
This also applies to how we interact with each other, we sometimes try control people while forgetting that we are each very individual persons.
Crowd control is one thing, but when it comes down to the singular person we are in a different game altogether.
We often get so involved in what we want for ourselves that we do not fully consider what the other person wants.
Not one of us enjoys being boxed in, forced to follow a path that is not of our own choosing, yet many people have happily done what others want when they were willing to do it.
What I am saying here is that when you want to get back together with your ex, your approach needs to be a carefully considered one, do it the right way and we can show you how.
You can easily gain active cooperation and interaction.
So what about the pattern then? Make-up and break-up then break-up and make-up.
Nothing new here, except this...
the pattern is not one of manipulating your ex to get back together, but going about getting your ex back so that you make sure that your ex is "happy" to begin considering the idea of not cutting you out totally after all.
How do you even begin to get to this point? Avoid putting your ex in a box! All neatly wrapped with the exact time and date for precisely delivery scheduled, no, gently get things rolling again and allow it to take its own course, and yes the course does follow a pattern and there are specific things you need to know to make all of this happen successfully.
And yes, there is way to get your ex to the point of being happy to get involved in the healing process as long it is on his/her terms and pace not yours.
There is no timeline when it comes to matters of the heart, but there is a pattern when it comes to healing a relationship, taking it further and keeping it that way once it has healed.
This is what we would so very much like to help you with.
You are the one in the lead here, not to control but to guide and encourage.
See the difference? We are here with expert guidance and back-up and a regular newsletter to keep you on track.
And once you have succeeded? We would LOVE to hear your story and share your new happiness with both of you! For great results, genuine and caring support, link up below.
As a husband and Dad, I truly wish you well in your quest to get your ex back together with you...
long-term! Kind Regards, Ivan