Since we are human, it makes sense that there is not just one reason why a relationship between two people could fail.
With the enormous amount of psyches out there in the world, it is only reasonable that we wouldn't be compatible with all of them.
In fact, statistically we are compatible with very few of them, which is why building lasting relationships with friends, family and spouses is extremely important.
When two people are in a relationship, but are causing each other harm by doing so, it may be time to step back and evaluate the pros and cons of having the relationship at all.
Make sure that you list your pros and cons on an individual basis as well, since it is important to make sure that each person is satisfied as an individual, not just as a collective married couple.
Here are some of the most common problems that may occur in your marriage.
Do not hesitate to contact a counselor if you feel that you would like to work on any of these issues, since most of them can be resolved with practice in proper communication techniques.
Marriage counselors often state that these are some of the most frequently observed reasons for a marriage to have troubles, or fail.
Poor Boundaries: Shrugging off or allowing intimate conversations with members of the opposite sex can lead to many types of emotional experiences.
These experiences can then lead to fantasy lives, poor judgment and could possibly lead to physical intimacies or affairs outside of the marriage.
Selfishness: While it may not seem like a very common or 'adult' like trait, selfishness is one of the most common displays that is often seen at the counselor's office.
In its more terrible and destructive forms, selfishness can take the form of manipulation, being controlling, or even abuse.
In some mild forms, selfishness can include non-appreciation, ignoring, discrediting of thoughts, impatience, criticism, lack of consideration and a clear lack of respect.
Lack of Sex or Intimacy: Lack of intimacy between two partners, in addition to any other issues between the couple, is bound to make the experience that much more tense.
Without affectionate gestures, kind words become empty and often times, spouses will lose trust in the ability of their partner to complete even the small things.
When someone gets married, they don't expect to live with someone as a roommate or 'friend' the rest of their lives.
They want to be swept off their feet by the person they love, and to lead an active and enjoyable sex life.
Lack of Communication Skills Incredibly, just because you are taught how to speak, does not mean that you are born ready to communicate.
Learning to communicate involves knowing about the different cycles of speech communication, problem solving, and rational thinking.
This includes being able to convey your emotions in a manner that is clear to the other party, without having to scream, shout or demean them.
If you're worried that there has been a communication breakdown between you and your spouse, or that there wasn't ever any good communication to start with, contacting a marriage counselor can help you begin to rebuild that bridge with your partner or spouse in order to address other issues that may have emerged.
If both parties are willing to attempt to communicate and understand that everyone involved in the relationship is responsible, it is very possible that your issues within your relationship could be helped.
Do not underestimate the power of a mediator, an unbiased third-party who is able to help you communicate better with those you love.