How to Find Love As a Widower
- 1). Recognize when you are done grieving. Acknowledge you want to share your life with another and that you are ready to date.
- 2). Volunteer at an organization you believe in. Pick an organization with women around your age. Make friends with the other volunteers while donating your time. And if a woman catches your eye, ask her to coffee to discuss some project of the organization.
- 3). Book a singles vacation to a place you have always wanted to visit. Bring your camera and photograph the sights. Participate in the group activities and get to know the other explorers in your group. If a woman interests you, ask her to take your picture or offer to take hers as an ice breaker.
- 4). Alert family members, friends and business associates that you are ready to date. Ask them if they know single women to set you up with on a blind date. Follow through and call the person to schedule the date.
- 5). Ask a person out who interests you. Inform all dates -- on the first date -- that you are looking to fall in love again. If she isn't interested, ask her if she has any friends who may be interested in you and keep them as friends only.
- 6). Date multiple women at a time. Inform all women you are newly dating that you will be dating several women simultaneously but are only looking for one long-term relationship. Explain you were married for a long time and need to find out what type of woman best fits the man you have become.
- 7). Date a woman at least five times before deciding if you would like to pursue the relationship further, even if there is no chemistry the first four times. Allow yourself to get to know the woman and develop a friendship. Recognize the difference between lust and love.
- 8). End your relationship with all women whose traits you dislike, such as drinking to excess or being argumentative, after the first date. There is no need to become involved or invested in a relationship that won't give you the result you desire.
- 9). Continue to date other women, even when you find the woman who has passed the five-date test, until you are ready to make it exclusive. When you are, remind her of your goal and listen to her responses. Become exclusive if you both agree, and if not, keep dating until you find the love you seek.
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