How To Save A Marriage Tip: Never Play Hide-and-Seek Game In Marriage!
If you are looking for an effective way to maintain a healthy and happy marriage, you should learn how to communicate with your partner. Deception is a serious barrier to communications. Lying obviously destroys credibility and violates trust. But more subtle means of obscuring the truth may also prevent effective communication.
So, what do I mean by hide-and-seek game?
In marriage, a deception is established on the false premise that "what he (she) does not know, it does not mean that you will not hurt him (her).
<em>Let me get into a more details by giving you a real life scenario. It is this...</em>
One day, when I came home from the golf course, my wife asked me if I had a good time. I told the events of the day with happiness. Then she suddenly asked me how much money I used. I gave her a proper accounting of green fees, caddy fees, a couple of new golf balls, and then added some money for a golf lesson that I just joined. My wife was so angry and said that we did not be able to afford a golf lesson! As I saw over reacted, I quickly changed the topic and ignored her feelings. In the weeks that followed, my golf game improved a bit, and I kept thinking that my golf skills can improve more if I joined two or three more lessons. So, I went to the pro and had three more lessons. This time, in order to avoid any troubles, I choose to not to tell my wife about it and carefully instruct the pro not to send any bills to my house. He smiled in agreement, saying that he actually needs to do that for lots of his customers.
Unfortunately, the pro forgot to relay the message to his secretary, and the bill has arrived to my house! My wife met me at the door with a knowing look on her face and the bill in her hand. I was shocked, and then all I could do was stand there and laugh. She looked at me seriously and I just did know what else I can do. She asked me why did I deceive her, and I gave her the myth by saying, "I figured what you did not know would not hurt you." She looked disappointed and said that she gets hurt even more that I had to hide it from her.
This experience was painful for both of us because I chose deception over the truth. Therefore, if you respect your other half, you should not play the hide-and-seek game in your marriage. It is something that can ruin your relationship very badly.
Warning: Please do not neglect the above tips if you want to have a happy and healthy marriage.
So, what do I mean by hide-and-seek game?
In marriage, a deception is established on the false premise that "what he (she) does not know, it does not mean that you will not hurt him (her).
<em>Let me get into a more details by giving you a real life scenario. It is this...</em>
One day, when I came home from the golf course, my wife asked me if I had a good time. I told the events of the day with happiness. Then she suddenly asked me how much money I used. I gave her a proper accounting of green fees, caddy fees, a couple of new golf balls, and then added some money for a golf lesson that I just joined. My wife was so angry and said that we did not be able to afford a golf lesson! As I saw over reacted, I quickly changed the topic and ignored her feelings. In the weeks that followed, my golf game improved a bit, and I kept thinking that my golf skills can improve more if I joined two or three more lessons. So, I went to the pro and had three more lessons. This time, in order to avoid any troubles, I choose to not to tell my wife about it and carefully instruct the pro not to send any bills to my house. He smiled in agreement, saying that he actually needs to do that for lots of his customers.
Unfortunately, the pro forgot to relay the message to his secretary, and the bill has arrived to my house! My wife met me at the door with a knowing look on her face and the bill in her hand. I was shocked, and then all I could do was stand there and laugh. She looked at me seriously and I just did know what else I can do. She asked me why did I deceive her, and I gave her the myth by saying, "I figured what you did not know would not hurt you." She looked disappointed and said that she gets hurt even more that I had to hide it from her.
This experience was painful for both of us because I chose deception over the truth. Therefore, if you respect your other half, you should not play the hide-and-seek game in your marriage. It is something that can ruin your relationship very badly.
Warning: Please do not neglect the above tips if you want to have a happy and healthy marriage.
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