Are you worried that the thrill in your marriage has gone? Are you suspicious that your wife no longer loves you? You are not alone.
While it is almost inevitable that the original thrill and passion of a new marriage cannot be maintained long term, it is entirely possible for a relationship between a couple to grow and deepen over the years.
Is this your experience, or do you need to invest some time and energy in fixing your marriage? The signs that your marriage is in crisis and suffering from more than just a natural "cooling off" of honeymoon passion can include the following: constant bickering over finances, child rearing and household chores, withholding of physical and emotional intimacy, your wife avoiding spending time with you and "spoiling" you like she used to.
All of these things could lead you to believe that your wife has stopped loving you.
Even worse, if your wife is spending more time on her appearance when she goes out with "friends", is evasive about where she's going, suddenly closes the browser on her computer or quickly ends cell phone conversations when you enter a room, then you might even suspect that she is having an affair.
If any of these symptoms sound painfully familiar, do not despair! There are many ways to start fixing your marriage and make your wife "fall in love" with you again.
First, don't automatically blame your wife for your marriage problems.
Take a hard look at your own behavior and contributions to the marriage.
Just like it takes "two to tango", for the most part, it takes two to trash a marriage.
If you suspect your wife is having an affair honestly ask yourself what is she looking for outside your marriage that she is not getting from within it? Take responsibility for your shortcomings and for fixing your marriage.
Second, don't put the focus on your marital problems.
Constantly discussing your problems can be draining and demoralizing.
You may easily fall into the trap of playing the "blame game".
Focus instead on reconnecting with your wife.
Remember the fun you used to have when you were dating and first married? Remember how you used to bring her flowers, tell her she was beautiful, rub her shoulders or feet when she seemed tired? Honestly ask yourself how long it's been since you've treated your wife this way.
Even the smallest gestures can go a long way in fixing a marriage.
Third, focus on being the type of partner your wife would be crazy to walk away from.
Have you got into some bad habits of your own? Have you stopped attending to your best grooming when it's just the two of you home alone? There's a time to snuggle in pajamas together.
But there are times where if you just hang out unshaven in your sweats all day (even if it is the weekend) then you send the message that you take your wife for granted.
This is no different than you taking the fact that your wife never fixes her hair or make up for you as a sign that your wife no longer loves you.
The most powerful steps you can take in fixing your marriage is to develop some specific positive relationship habits.
Just like any living thing, your marriage will wither away from neglect unless you have "healthy" relationship habits.