I'd had a lot of great relationships in the past with some wonderful men.
The trouble was I'd never had a relationship that lasted more than a couple of years, in spite of having a lot in common with my lovers and a mutual physical attraction.
So when I met Steve I was determined that this time would be different! I had always enjoying catering to my other half.
If they wanted to go out with the boys, that was fine with me.
They were free to do as they liked and I was always home waiting for them.
Well, apparently that didn't work.
I realized that I always did the same thing in my relationships and they always ended.
Now Steve was calling less often, seemed distant when we were together and he just didn't seem excited to be with me anymore.
I realized I had to change my behavior drastically.
The next time I saw his number come up on my phone I just let it ring.
When he called the next day I picked up and breathlessly told him I was having so much fun but had to go and would call him later.
The next day at lunch, Steve showed up at my desk with news that he'd made reservations at our favorite restaurant.
As I'd pre-arranged with a work buddy, she came by with two of our male co-workers to take me to lunch.
As Steve left the office I couldn't tell how he was feeling but I knew I had the upper hand at last! Everyone wants what they can't have but more than that, they need to be supported emotionally.
I realized that day that I didn't know how Steve was feeling because I'd never bothered to look past his words and actions to see what he really needed.
I'm glad I saw that my relationship was failing or it would be just another memory now.
Steve and I are thriving together and I can hardly believe how I got him back-by discovering what made him happy!