Tell me, what would you do if you've been with someone for 5 years and then she tells you that she likes to be alone, she needs time to read and needs some private time alone.
When she said all that to me I thought, maybe she genuinely needed some time.
Then someone told me that she was seen in a cinema dating a guy.
I was heartbroken.
Long story short no matter how much I tried things were not the same again.
Then I start looking for some heartbreak advice.
Here is what helped me: 1.
Don't Appear Needy Don't appear needy.
Break all contacts.
Don't call her.
You can send her an email but not immediately after the breakup.
Write something casually not in a style that you are missing her or anything and see her response.
If she calls don't say to her that you miss her blah, blah, blah..
Don't rush to meet her.
2.
Find Out The Reason Find out what was the reason of breaking up? Till you address that reason if you again meet, you may again breakup.
The reason may be that you failed to genuinely satisfy her, know her needs etc.
Take time to find out the reason.
The answer may help you committing the same mistake in another relationship.
3.
Don't Lose Hope This is the most important one.
Don't lose hope.
Don't get desperate.
Have trust in God that He will either bring her back to you or you will get someone better.
Remember once hope is lost everything is lost.
4.
Join a Gym Join a gym and do exercise regularly.
As you sweat feel you are letting go all you anxiety, tension and distress out of your body.
5.
Social Work Do some social work.
This may include visiting your parents, friends and even making new ones.
6.
Keep Busy Busy yourself by helping others.
If you need some inspiration just look at me.
Why am I writing this article? There's nothing wrong in earning some money while genuinely helping others.
7.
Accept Pain is a Part of Life Accept that pain is a part of life.
Pains of life color the canvas of life just as joys.
Once you get use to that pain it will no longer hurt you.
Time is the biggest pain killer.
With time even the biggest scars get healed.
Just think after 10 years, will you feel the same pain.
What about after 100 years from now would anyone remember you or what happened to you? 8.
It's Getting Better Day by Day Just remind yourself time to time that it's getting better and better.
Today was hard, but tomorrow will be a little easier and so on.
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Don't Get The Sacred Seduction - It's Crazy If nothing above works then the surest way to heal the pain of your heart break is to read "The Sacred Seduction.
" It's so crazy that I don't recommend it to everyone except a chosen few.
Those few people who are willing to let go all of their inhibitions, timidity, fear and shyness for the sake of healing, for the sake of pleasure and for the sake of getting the true love of their life.