Getting back together may seem out of reach to you at the moment but you can get back together with your ex if you build the desire again.
Even though you may feel undesirable, unattractive and rejected, right now.
Initially, when you break up with someone you love, you go through lots of painful emotions.
You feel sad, depressed and hurt, and, of course, you miss them.
Although there are numerous websites, books, blogs, forums and even courses designed to help you get back together, at the end of the day, using your own common sense can really make a huge difference when it comes to getting back together.
And good old common courtesy will also go a long way towards healing your relationship.
The thing is, if you're preoccupied with your lost relationship, and wondering how you can possibly get back together with your ex then follow this simple advice.
You'll give yourself a better chance of getting back together with that special someone.
Before I tell you how to build the desire to get back together with your ex there are a few things you should not do.
In particular, don't play games with them.
This is very important, but unfortunately many people do resort to this tactic during breakups because it gives them a sense of power.
If you can make the other person think you don't care, or that you care more than you really do, you're in effect manipulating them and that can feel great to begin with.
But it won't feel great for very long and it won't assist you in getting back together.
If you do try to play games then you'll soon realize that lying and tricking the other person isn't a good feeling.
And anything good that happens because of it will always be sullied a little because of the lies.
Some play games where they pretend to be dating someone else, or they pretend to be in love with someone else.
This is a ploy to make the ex jealous.
While it does work now and then, other times it makes the breakup permanent because it often backfires on them and ruins all chances of getting back together.
Your ex could be so jealous at the thought of you seeing someone else that they do actually want to get back together with you.
On the other hand they could decide that since you moved on so quickly, you don't really care about them anyway and getting back together would be pointless.
You have no way of knowing which way this ploy will work until it's too late.
Definitely don't be mean.
This holds true in any situation or any relationship, but sometimes the anger around a breakup makes us act more viciously than we normally might.
Even if you're hurt, the fact that you want to get back together shows that you're ready to forgive that person.
If you couldn't, you wouldn't want your ex back anyway, in fact you'd be glad it was over.
It's much more effective to move your focus from them onto you so you can build the desire and make them think positively about getting back together.
Now, it's time to think about how you've been acting lately.
If you were your ex, would you look forward to spending any time with you or talking to you as you are now? Or would you dread the very thought of it? Do you shout or nag? Even if you feel like arguing, you mustn't do it.
Are you sabotaging all hope of ever getting back together? Instead, work very hard at controlling your anger and hurt, and at being the sort of person they can truly miss and feel drawn to, so they will want to get back together with you.
Start to build the desire.
Be on your best behavior and make it easy for your ex to remember what drew them to you in the first place.
Just be yourself and act as naturally as you can.
They'll remember your good points and will miss them.
Then you'll have a better chance of being able to get back together with your ex.
You can begin to build desire by switching your attention to yourself in a positive way.
By taking care with your appearance and making yourself more attractive.
Have a new hair cut, buy a new outfit and generally pamper yourself.
Work on your confidence levels too, because confidence is an extremely attractive trait to have and all attractive people have it.
Getting back together will more than likely mean making changes to yourself, the way you look and the way you behave.
So if you really want to get back together with your ex you have to be the type of person they were attracted too in the first place.
If you remember how you were when they first fell in love with you, you will be well on your way to getting back together.