Moving on after divorce involves going through a major period of transition from married partner to independent person.
This can be difficult especially if you have been married for a long time.
Divorce is a major change in circumstances and involves changes of role, responsibility, relationships, financial position and possibly your well-being.
Whether you are the one, who initiated the divorce, told your spouse you wanted a divorce or you split up by mutual agreement, you are alone again after many years as part of a couple and it is a big change to deal with.
Everyone will experience the aftermath of divorce differently.
Time to complete the transition will vary with individual circumstances and involve a range of feelings and states, from shock and denial, searching and anger to guilt, until after a period of general acceptance, the transition is complete.
As with any major life change, having people to share your reactions with is important as it can help you gain insights and new perspectives which may lead to different ways of dealing with your experience.
It can be helpful to think about previous transitions you have been through e.
g.
when you first moved away from home.
Imagine what you felt like when you were, for the first time, alone in your room and had to face the day and night on your own.
What were your thoughts and feelings? How did you deal with it? What comforted you at the time? The impact of change will be less dramatic now than it was at the time and the same will happen when you look back at the time you were moving on after divorce.
Other Tips For Moving On After Divorce vLook after yourself, pay attention to your nutrition, drink plenty of water and exercise regularly.
vWork out how much money you need to live on and plan how to spend less or save more if there is a shortfall.
vLearn something new and do something different every week to stretch your comfort zone vRead or do a crossword every day to keep your mind active.
vGive your home a spring clean and clear any clutter.
You will be amazed how good you will feel after a good clear out.
vDo something nice for yourself like booking a massage or arrange a "girlie" evening with friends vDo something nice for someone else.
It will make you feel good.
vOn that note, keep a gratitude journal.
Every night before bedtime, list up to twenty things you're grateful for.
It gets easier and easier the more you do this and will really make your life feel better.