4 Secret Ways to Mend Your Marriage After Infidelity and Regain the Love You Once Had!
You may feel sick to your stomach right now when you think of what you have done.
"How could I have been this stupid?" you ask yourself.
Well, it has happened and now it is time to get over it and stop beating yourself.
There is work to do.
In this article you are going to discover 4 secret ways to mend your marriage now that that affair is over for good.
Read on...
Secret Number One - Come Clean Many people claim to really be remorseful about straying from their marital home without really being sorry.
The true proof that you are genuinely repentant is to come clean.
You need to let your spouse know everything about that affair; who it was with, what sent you over to the other side, why you remained in it for as long as you did, why all it was "was a one night stand", the deep rooted issues that made you do it, and so on.
After you have done all of this it is then time to ask for forgiveness...
Secret Number Two - Ask For Forgiveness Apologize to your spouse after confessing and ask for his / her forgiveness.
Do not assume that just because you have revealed all forgiveness would be the next logical step for your partner.
No.
Say "I am sincerely sorry to have hurt you so much" and remember to add no stupid "buts".
Do say something as foolish as this; "I am sorry that I put you through so much hurt and dragged this family into this nasty situation but...
" Doing that is not indicative of the fact that you are really repentant - you are in fact still blame casting (that is, playing the blame game).
You will also need to take some time out to be by yourself for a while...
Secret Number Three - Time Out You may disagree with this but you really need some time out to think things through.
Your partner needs a clear head - right now he / she may really not be in the right frame of mind to even consider forgiving you.
You must realize that trust has been broken (scratch that), trust has been SHATTERED! To ask for forgiveness and the return to normalcy of everything is to be inconsiderate and naïve.
Take out time - I do not mean that you should file for a legal separation or anything like that.
And I did not say you should go out there and tell everybody your business - no.
I simply advice that you go someplace else and give your spouse some much needed time to process the matter.
Secret Number Four - Break the Cycle I normally say this; "we all have the streak of insanity within us and those of us who are still normal just haven't been presented with the settings and circumstances that trigger our insanity.
" I stand by the above statement.
So how does that tie to you? Well, if you do not want to risk having another affair in the future, you MUST investigate and identify the source of your infidelity.
Why did you cheat - if you discover the "why" you can avoid it from reoccurring in future.
"How could I have been this stupid?" you ask yourself.
Well, it has happened and now it is time to get over it and stop beating yourself.
There is work to do.
In this article you are going to discover 4 secret ways to mend your marriage now that that affair is over for good.
Read on...
Secret Number One - Come Clean Many people claim to really be remorseful about straying from their marital home without really being sorry.
The true proof that you are genuinely repentant is to come clean.
You need to let your spouse know everything about that affair; who it was with, what sent you over to the other side, why you remained in it for as long as you did, why all it was "was a one night stand", the deep rooted issues that made you do it, and so on.
After you have done all of this it is then time to ask for forgiveness...
Secret Number Two - Ask For Forgiveness Apologize to your spouse after confessing and ask for his / her forgiveness.
Do not assume that just because you have revealed all forgiveness would be the next logical step for your partner.
No.
Say "I am sincerely sorry to have hurt you so much" and remember to add no stupid "buts".
Do say something as foolish as this; "I am sorry that I put you through so much hurt and dragged this family into this nasty situation but...
" Doing that is not indicative of the fact that you are really repentant - you are in fact still blame casting (that is, playing the blame game).
You will also need to take some time out to be by yourself for a while...
Secret Number Three - Time Out You may disagree with this but you really need some time out to think things through.
Your partner needs a clear head - right now he / she may really not be in the right frame of mind to even consider forgiving you.
You must realize that trust has been broken (scratch that), trust has been SHATTERED! To ask for forgiveness and the return to normalcy of everything is to be inconsiderate and naïve.
Take out time - I do not mean that you should file for a legal separation or anything like that.
And I did not say you should go out there and tell everybody your business - no.
I simply advice that you go someplace else and give your spouse some much needed time to process the matter.
Secret Number Four - Break the Cycle I normally say this; "we all have the streak of insanity within us and those of us who are still normal just haven't been presented with the settings and circumstances that trigger our insanity.
" I stand by the above statement.
So how does that tie to you? Well, if you do not want to risk having another affair in the future, you MUST investigate and identify the source of your infidelity.
Why did you cheat - if you discover the "why" you can avoid it from reoccurring in future.
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