Curing an Unhappy Marriage
Gone are the days when we celebrate 25, 30 and 50 year anniversaries.
Divorce actually take a seat at the service and stalks the newly weds from day one.
We all know the familiar statistic that one in two marriages fail and end in divorce.
What I want to know is why that other one (in the two) is in desperate need of curing an unhappy marriage.
Marriage seems to be this complicated union that is wonderful on the outside and yet miserable on the inside.
Let's run a scenario.
You meet this wonderful person, fall in love, and have an amazing courtship.
You get engaged and have a wedding.
Life is amazing.
You get the house and start planning the family.
Baby comes along and you need a bigger place and a safer car.
Life becomes more cluttered and busy.
Whilst this is very stereotypical you get my point.
In no time you will be strangers.
Conversations will die and drifting apart is easy.
Curing an unhappy marriage is not easy.
It requires you to confront what went wrong ( without blaming anyone ) and then fixing it.
I would like to offer some advice to help your marriage.
This advice may not read well to you but trust me.
I have been married over 10 years.
The first year was great.
The next 7 were not.
So allow one who is still traveling the road to say to you this is the way I took, try it.
First realize that the will to begin curing an unhappy marriage is admirable.
It speaks of hope.
I am not talking into situations of physical and emotional abuse.
Those situations should be avoided and professional help sought immediately.
First step is to avoid arguing at all costs.
This is very difficult.
You are conditioned to bickering and fighting so now to stop I know is hard.
I also mean learn to communicate with each other 'properly'.
Second step is to spend time together.
This doesn't have to be extravagant dinners and holidays.
Just take baby steps and say to your spouse this next 10 minutes belongs to you.
I am all yours.
Don't carry expectations into these tips as you will set them up to fail.
Curing an unhappy marriage takes time, so give it the time it needs.
If you can learn to communicate effectively and to spend time together you will go along way turning an unhappy marriage around.
As long as both of you are walking in the general direction I believe change can happen.
Divorce actually take a seat at the service and stalks the newly weds from day one.
We all know the familiar statistic that one in two marriages fail and end in divorce.
What I want to know is why that other one (in the two) is in desperate need of curing an unhappy marriage.
Marriage seems to be this complicated union that is wonderful on the outside and yet miserable on the inside.
Let's run a scenario.
You meet this wonderful person, fall in love, and have an amazing courtship.
You get engaged and have a wedding.
Life is amazing.
You get the house and start planning the family.
Baby comes along and you need a bigger place and a safer car.
Life becomes more cluttered and busy.
Whilst this is very stereotypical you get my point.
In no time you will be strangers.
Conversations will die and drifting apart is easy.
Curing an unhappy marriage is not easy.
It requires you to confront what went wrong ( without blaming anyone ) and then fixing it.
I would like to offer some advice to help your marriage.
This advice may not read well to you but trust me.
I have been married over 10 years.
The first year was great.
The next 7 were not.
So allow one who is still traveling the road to say to you this is the way I took, try it.
First realize that the will to begin curing an unhappy marriage is admirable.
It speaks of hope.
I am not talking into situations of physical and emotional abuse.
Those situations should be avoided and professional help sought immediately.
First step is to avoid arguing at all costs.
This is very difficult.
You are conditioned to bickering and fighting so now to stop I know is hard.
I also mean learn to communicate with each other 'properly'.
Second step is to spend time together.
This doesn't have to be extravagant dinners and holidays.
Just take baby steps and say to your spouse this next 10 minutes belongs to you.
I am all yours.
Don't carry expectations into these tips as you will set them up to fail.
Curing an unhappy marriage takes time, so give it the time it needs.
If you can learn to communicate effectively and to spend time together you will go along way turning an unhappy marriage around.
As long as both of you are walking in the general direction I believe change can happen.
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