The Best Marriages Have A Core Foundation Of Strong Friendship
You have probably had many friends of the opposite sex you would not consider marrying. And, you may have heard someone who is married comment that the spouse is also a best friend. Did the friendship develop before, during or after the marriage? If your true friend has became your spouse then you are really lucky.
A friend is someone you can be totally honest and comfortable with. You can spend hours together in talking and sharing your dreams and ideas. They can unintentionally hurt you or cause you pain and you have no problem in forgiving them. A good friend is there for you no matter what happens and you care for them regardless.
Friends usually have same likings. You find interesting things to do together and show enthusiasm and encouragement for the others success. If they fail and suffer disappointment, you are there to comfort and console. You have mutual respect for each other even if one does something distressing.
The more time you invest in a relationship the more strong and meaningful it becomes. Relationships gain strength when built on a steady incline. By pacing your relationship you gain insight into the character of your friend. You monitor how they react to good and bad events.
As long as you remain friends, you can be comfortable with what the friend does even if it involves someone else. You are not jealous of a friend but if you become romantically involved this will change and so will your demeanor.
You will probably become more demanding and obsessive. Sharing your friend with someone else is not something you will permit anymore. The playing field has changed and you hope your friend agrees with the modification in the rules.
No doubt friendships can build a strong foundation for marriage. However, friends often never advance into marriage because the emotional charge is absent. If there is no physical spark then there is no desire to move further. Marriage has lost many a good friend and friends have lost many a good spouse.
Of course, marriages cannot be built solely on physical attraction either. No one can remain alive and be intimate 24 hours a day. You must explore ways to have more in marriage than sex. Developing a good friendship after marriage has often averted divorce. It is sometimes easier for lovers to become friends than the other way around.
Friendship and marriage are both things to be desired and acquired. Be obliged if you can experience both in the same relationship. Work together to base your marriage on both and create ways to keep them fresh and alive. A foundation with both is unshakable.
A friend is someone you can be totally honest and comfortable with. You can spend hours together in talking and sharing your dreams and ideas. They can unintentionally hurt you or cause you pain and you have no problem in forgiving them. A good friend is there for you no matter what happens and you care for them regardless.
Friends usually have same likings. You find interesting things to do together and show enthusiasm and encouragement for the others success. If they fail and suffer disappointment, you are there to comfort and console. You have mutual respect for each other even if one does something distressing.
The more time you invest in a relationship the more strong and meaningful it becomes. Relationships gain strength when built on a steady incline. By pacing your relationship you gain insight into the character of your friend. You monitor how they react to good and bad events.
As long as you remain friends, you can be comfortable with what the friend does even if it involves someone else. You are not jealous of a friend but if you become romantically involved this will change and so will your demeanor.
You will probably become more demanding and obsessive. Sharing your friend with someone else is not something you will permit anymore. The playing field has changed and you hope your friend agrees with the modification in the rules.
No doubt friendships can build a strong foundation for marriage. However, friends often never advance into marriage because the emotional charge is absent. If there is no physical spark then there is no desire to move further. Marriage has lost many a good friend and friends have lost many a good spouse.
Of course, marriages cannot be built solely on physical attraction either. No one can remain alive and be intimate 24 hours a day. You must explore ways to have more in marriage than sex. Developing a good friendship after marriage has often averted divorce. It is sometimes easier for lovers to become friends than the other way around.
Friendship and marriage are both things to be desired and acquired. Be obliged if you can experience both in the same relationship. Work together to base your marriage on both and create ways to keep them fresh and alive. A foundation with both is unshakable.
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