For many of us, a breakup can cause a lot of heartache and pain. Though we realize in our hearts that the relationship is ended, we retain a glimmer of hope that one day our ex will return to us.

We suffer in silence and mope around and refuse to accept the fact that there is nothing to look forward to in the relationship. It is essential at this point to get over your ex and €let go.€

We may continue to harbor feelings for our ex for a period but once we realize that there is no looking back, it is time to move on. Friends and family members may give us their love and support to help tide us through a difficult period when we feel isolated and rejected.

It is now time for some deep introspection. Here are a few ways to stop mooning and learning to accept facts.

€ Set aside a couple of days for grieving. You can cry or feel angry as this will help you get rid of the hate, anger, confusion and pain that is stifling your thoughts.
€ Try not to blame yourself for what went wrong. If you are feeling guilty about something, talk to a confidante or a counselor and give vent to your feelings.
€ Do not surround yourself with anxiety or stress. Stop worrying about how others will see you and start thinking of moving on.

Try to get involved in some project that requires concentration and physical outputs. This will help you when you wish to blot out other thoughts and when you achieve what you are doing, you will feel mentally satisfied.

Introspect and learn from your mistakes -

During your spare time, try to recall the reasons that led to the breakup. Did you drive her away by your selfish behavior? If so, admit your faults and try to become a better person.

If you find that you were too demanding or possessive, try to get a grip and vow that you will never behave this way with another again.

If you were the one to break up the relationship, do not find excuses to try and get back again. Instead, abide by your decision and refrain from making contact.

Start going out with friends of both sexes and do not sulk during this time. Find pleasure in meeting up with friends and have fun. This will prevent you from thinking of your ex. Find time to work out at the gym or take long walks while you think pleasant thoughts.

Remove all pictures and objects in the home that remind you of your ex. This will prove to be a boon when you wish to get over your ex. Make an issue of doing this by putting all the things together and making a bonfire or collecting the whole booty and taking it down to the trash dump.

You will feel good when you do it correctly and when the deed is done, you will feel that you have succeeded in burying the past.

Learn to love again -

You may start feeling lonely and wish to get involved in a new relationship. Start looking at the world anew and keep an open mind. Once you feel the ache in your heart subsiding, you may be able to find someone who will fill that void in your life.

Take your time to find the right one and do not jump into a relationship immediately. Since you have been hurt once, you should take it easy and ensure that you do not commit the same faults.

Welcome the new love in your life and put your past behind you. This will help you to enter into a new relationship and live again.