Want your girlfriend back? However she ended things with you, there was a reason your ex was attracted to you in the first place.
Getting her back is as easy as reigniting that original spark; renewing her interest by polishing up certain behaviors and personality traits that made her once fall in love with you.
Run down the list below, and check off which of these behaviors you currently exhibit, and which ones you're lacking in: Confidence - The big one.
Nothing's more attractive to a girl than being with a guy who's self-assured.
When you know exactly what you're doing, the girl you're with can feel more at ease.
Women feel safe and secure in the arms of a confident man.
Always be that guy.
Strength - Physical strength is always nice, but emotional strength is better.
Women sometimes feel vulnerable, and when they do they want to turn to a man who's rock solid for support.
You need to be strong for your girl in order to make her feel like she can turn to you.
When a guy is emotionally strong, women can sense it.
Drive - Your girlfriend dated you because she was looking for a long-term relationship.
When she broke up with you, it's because she could no longer see that future.
Having the drive and ambition to plan your own future will allow anyone you date to see the same vision.
Having drive is the equivalent of always having a full tank of gas...
it keeps you out there doing stuff where the other guys end up on the couch.
Planning - Girls are attracted to men who don't just talk about succeeding, but actually make plans to do so.
If you've got hopes and dreams that have nothing to do with your current situation, your girlfriend knows you'll never get there.
But if you're making plans, scheduling classes, going to school, or working toward achieving these goals? The girl you're with will appreciate that you're a man of action, not words.
Optimism - Everyone loves an optimist.
Always seeing the glass as half-full is a refreshing change from a world filled with mostly negative people.
Whining, complaining, and procrastinating will always bring a girl down over time.
But being up, active, and mostly positive about every situation will always keep your girlfriend more interested in you than if you're shrugging your shoulders or assuming that the worst will happen.
Risk-Taking - Caution in a relationship leads to boredom.
Women are emotional creatures - by investing their love in you, they're risking getting hurt.
Similarly, they want to see you risk something too.
It might be an emotional risk, or a financial one - changing your career, making a business venture, or just going out and taking up something you've never done before - girls are attracted to guys who throw caution to the wind and take chances.
Most of the time, if you throw in some optimism, luck will be on your side.
Sensitivity - I'm not talking about some weak-kneed, teary-eyed, politically correct, sensitive modern man...
that guy's a big pushover.
I'm talking about the kind of man who's sensitive enough to know when his girlfriend is upset, to ask her what's wrong, and to try and make it right for her...
without her having to ask.
Being a big softy might make you a great movie guy, but women want strength along with that sensitivity.
If you make sure you've attuned your sensitive side to meet your girlfriend's emotional needs, you'll always make her happy.
Happiness - Most guys concentrate only on making their girlfriends happy, thinking that if they can placate them, they'll be happy as well.
What they don't realize is that this: your girlfriend's level of happiness is directly related to how you yourself feel.
If you're happy, smiling, and always fun to be around, your girlfriend will never be sad.
That type of mood is contagious, and you should be the one who starts it.
Honesty - Every woman will tell you they want a man who's honest.
That's because most guys lie their asses off at one time or another.
Most do it to avoid fights - they tell smaller lies about where they were or what they were doing to avoid their girlfriends getting mad at them.
These lies turn bigger and bigger until lying becomes an everyday occurrence.
Instead of perpetuating that vicious cycle, try being honest with your girl about everything you do.
After all, you've got nothing to hide, right? Affection - Women tend to love attention, but they need something even more: affection.
Getting close with a guy is an emotional experience for most women, and having a big strong silent man who hides behind walls can often be confusing.
Don't be afraid to open up, and let your girl in.
Hug her, kiss her, hold her hand or stroke her hair - those things will always bring you closer as a couple.