Ever been in the position that you thought you had what no one else has ever had, your relationship was the best in the whole world, you just knew it was going to last forever, then out of the blue it was over, and you had no idea how or why it happened? The harsh reality of this situation is that relationships end for all different kinds of reasons.
But there are some reasons that stick out the most, and reek of how bad things can go wrong in the blink of an eye.
Money In these difficult times, money can live up to it's hype of, "the root of all evil".
I don't know if that is true or not, but I do know that money has and will continue to be one of the main centers around relationship roadblocks, unless some kind of compromise can be reached.
Couples need to be on the same page when it comes to the financial side of things.
For instance, if one is a spender, and one is more responsible.
These arguments, can be easily avoided by simple a simple discussion, always discuss any type of purchase, and make sure you both are on the same page.
Selfishness and/or controlling Couples must always remain equal and be willing to budge a little to avoid pointless fighting.
This means that you don't always need to be right in any given situation.
You are not better than the other person because you have a better paying job etc.
The worst I have seen is the people that want to be in a committed relationship, but they have the, "I don't need a mommy/daddy to tell me what to do" attitude.
Instead of looking at it like your partner is trying to tell you what to do, stop and try to understand where they are coming from.
And vise versa, try not to sound like you are a control freak, treating them like a child, and telling them who they can, or can't hangout with.
The "in-laws" Whether you like it or not, your partner has family, and you must see them with the same importance.
This is a big killer among relationships.
Just because you may not like their family, or maybe just a couple of their family members, you must not try and break up family, or cause problems between them.
You must be the bigger person and keep your comments to yourself.
Family was there before you, and they will most likely be there after you.
So always remember to respect their family as you would your own.
Lack of communication This is probably the number one killer of all relationships.
Communication in a relationships starts out great, then plummets.
If you want a long lasting relationship, you must communicate.
Some people will never speak up when something is bothering them, leading to a dangerous explosion of pent up emotions.
When this happens, very hurtful things that are not meant are said, and a sorry simply cannot erase what is said out of anger.
Another bad situation is when one person thinks the other can read their mind, and then get's angry when in fact they cannot.
Take the time to set down and have good meaningful conversations that have equal talking and listening happening.
Understanding, and the ability to accept someone's feelings without blowing a gasket is the key to keeping a happy and healthy relationship.