Ever heard the saying "less is more"? This is often true when it comes to getting back together with an ex boyfriend.
Getting him to want you again isn't so much about what you do, it's more about the things you don't do that will make him interested again.
You need to step carefully and watch everything you say or do, especially at first, when the break up just happened.
Below is a list of huge mistakes women often make when trying to get back an exboyfriend: * Contacting Him - After a break up, the biggest error women make is trying to stay in touch with their ex.
Even if he told you he wants to still be friends, you should not be contacting your ex boyfriend whatsoever.
Ducking out of sight and disappearing from view is the best way to let him know you've accepted the break up, and it's also a great way to get him interested again.
When a guy breaks up with you he's still looking to see a reaction on your end.
But when you give him nothing? It suddenly gets him very interested in why you aren't fawning over him.
* Professing Love For Him - As the song says, you don' t know what you got till' it's gone.
That's the case almost every time, which is why after a break up you'll suddenly feel the need to tell your ex all those little things you never really put into words before.
You'll think that if he can only understand how much you love him, he'll come running back to you.
This is rarely the case.
Just after your boyfriend breaks up with you is not the time for spilling your feelings out all over the table.
You'll have time to profess love for him later on, after you've gotten back together.
Doing it now might fall on deaf ears...
it's usually a case of too little, too late.
* Begging or Crying - Doing this might make your man feel guilty enough to put an arm around you, and that might feel good.
But what you're really doing is making yourself look desperate.
You cannot do this.
Your ex will instantly lose a measure of respect for you, plus you're piling a bunch of guilt on his shoulders that he really doesn't want.
Crying or begging to get back together with your ex always results in the same thing: awkwardness.
Making a clean break gives you a much better chance of winning your boyfriend back, because later on you won't have to explain this really weird scene to him.
* Giving Out Ultimatums - This is a terrible idea.
While it may feel good to give angry deadlines, you're in no position to be demanding anything from your ex.
Ultimatums never work, and in fact they undermine your credibility because these deadlines will come and go without anything happening.
Scaring your ex into taking you back is never a good plan.
By avoiding this behavior you can keep any respect he still has for you, and that's an important part of getting your ex back.
* Sending Your Friends to Talk to Him - This is a horrible way of creating awkwardness and miscommunication.
Not only will your ex resent you sending one of your friends to speak on your behalf, but when you finally do get back together there will always be a weird vibe between him and that friend.
After breaking up with you, the last person a guy wants to run into is one of your friends.
It weirds him out.
Communication should always be directly between you and your ex boyfriend (and only after a period of time has passed where he hasn't heard from you).
Never involve a third party.