I've been through breakups, I know what it's like.
Your entire world seems like it's being shaken around and ripped apart, and nothing feels quite whole without the love of your life...
it's a dark time in any man or woman's life, and it can virtually cripple you if you let it.
The key is to not let the pain get the best of you, and I'm going to help you out by sharing a proven plan I've personally used.
It's a fairly simple process that's been proven effective at getting over break-up pain, and it works best when you stick to it to the letter.
The plan can be described in 4 steps that you'll find easy regardless of how much you hurt.
If you give each step all you've got, you even have a great shot at revitalizing the relationship and getting back together.
1.
Understand.
There are certain reasons that relationships inevitably fail, and no relationship falls outside of this rule.
If certain things happen or certain needs aren't met for one of the members of the relationship, you can rest assured that things won't end well...
maybe quickly, but not well.
Understanding these things is the first step to keeping them from destroying your life.
2.
Getting your head on straight.
Attracting your ex back will be next-to-impossible if you haven't pulled yourself together and gotten back a few of those pieces of yourself that fell off when you and your ex broke up.
Getting up and dusting yourself off is essential to any efforts you make to get your ex back.
Nobody ever wanted to get back with a needy, depressed, or angry ex.
3.
Assess.
Take a serious look at your own personal situation.
Everybody's case is a little different, even though in the basic scheme of things the same general strategies work for healing any relationship.
You need to develop a real plan of action based on what your situation entails, because flying by the seat of your pants will probably result in you landing flat on them.
4.
Work the plan.
Your efforts at getting over your breakup pain and getting your ex back should adhere closely to the plan you've created, and not be thrown wildly about by your emotions.
You're going to be feeling the hurt for a little while, and you'll be tempted to do things that will only hurt you in the long run.
It's very important to stick to the plan you made with your head, not your heart.
These four steps are really only the beginning and a little of the middle of your healing process, but they'll get you on your way and help you a lot in overcoming the pain of your breakup.
For a more in-depth look at these steps, and a bit of help in pulling it off, you can take a look at the site I link to in the final paragraph of this article.
The important thing is to remember that there is such a thing as happiness after a breakup.
It'll come to you if you pursue it, you just have to not allow yourself to be dragged under by the pain of breaking up.
My own experiences with breakups have taught me both of these things.
I'm not going to lie to you and say that you can just press an "Off" button on the hurt, but it's a fact that you can dial it down until it's eventually gone.
After that, what you do with your life is completely up to you.