The reason why getting an ex back is so hard for most people is because there are so many emotions involved.
It's hard to think clearly and make the right decisions.
Most of the time the right decision is the hardest thing to do...
In the beginning after a break up first happens, it is actually best to just agree with your partners decision.
Doing this will actually make it easier to get back together even though it may be hard to believe now, it's very true and has worked countless times in the past.
After a break up, it is important to go through everything in your mind and look at the relationship from a 3rd person point of view...
You need to do this so you can find the underlying causes of your relationship problems.
There's is always underlying problems is a relationship that is having trouble, whether it is insecurity issues, lying, jealousy, or any other number of things, it should be your number one priority to figure these problems out and fix them before you even begin to think about getting back together with your ex.
Once you straighten out any problems that have been haunting your relationship it is time to go on the offensive...
You are going to need to get your ex lover's attention and show them that you are capable of changing and that you are still a fun person to be around.
This can be done best not by dealing with your ex directly, but through their friends...
Going out and having fun with mutual friends that talk to your ex is a great way to establish yourself again as an attractive person that they want to be with...