Getting back with your ex seems like a no brainer if this person once brought you happiness.
But there are some important things to ask yourself before you jump right back into what may appear to be exactly what you want.
This article provides you with four questions to ask yourself before you make the final decision to get back with your ex.
#1 What is going to be different this time around? You need to accept that the old relationship is done.
You cannot get that back.
This is an opportunity to start new and more forward.
What have you done to make sure that the old issues don't make it back into your new and improved relationship? If you have not addressed these issues they are almost certain to come up again within several months of you reuniting.
#2 Are we getting back together for anyone but ourselves? If family or friends are pressuring the two of you instead of providing basic support then take the time to openly discuss this with your mate.
You will not last as a couple if one of the main reasons you are getting back together is because other people think you should.
#3 Are you afraid to be alone? Most people adamantly state "No.
" But it is o.
k.
to be nervous about being alone if you've been with someone for a long time.
Just don't let that be the main reason for reuniting.
This stifles your personal growth as a human being.
#4 Was there abuse in the relationship? If this is not being addressed by a professional counselor, please hold off on reuniting.
It is possible for people to change in this environment but professional intervention is usually required.
These questions are a great place to start.
To make your reunion with your ex last you might consider looking at some proven ways other couples have made it back together for the long term.
How they reunited was as important as the fact that they reunited.