Splitting up with your partner can often be an ugly and depressing experience, but it is a factor relationships can be repaired.
In fact very often both partners feel dazed and confused, as well as let down and empty.
Many couples feel that they want to get back together again which is perfectly possible, however sometimes the things that they do to try and achieve this result in further damage to the relationship and the chances of reconciliation.
A lot of research has been done that shows that people are often attracted to a bright and sunny disposition.
If you have just come out of relationship that you want to restore, this may sound like bad news.
However, there are things that you can do to help achieve this.
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Self Confidence What I eventually now may seem hard and callous, but please bear in mind I say it to try and help you.
When relationship breaks up we have all sorts of emotions, mostly negative, which include feelings of isolation, loneliness and possibly guilt or blame.
Now this is the hard bit, in that believe it or not, how we feel is often a choice we make.
It's important to replace feelings of depression with feelings of happiness.
Instead of focusing on being depressed, do something that you enjoy doing, listen to a piece of music or take up activity, anything that will help to take your mind off your ex.
This is important, because by doing so you will show to those around you, including your ex, that you are emotionally mature and in control of your life with or without them.
It is not so much that this will get them back, but if you appear to be overly emotional and upset with the world this can be very attractive.
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Get Out There Whilst you may be without your partner for a while, it's important that you get out and socialise with your friends.
Friends don't want to see you miserable and will help to restore your self-esteem as you begin to realise that people actually like you! As they react warmly to you, your own self-esteem will improve.
You will also find that other people have been in your situation and by talking to them you will gain strength.
Again, this will reinforce a positive image of you in your ex partners mind as they see you out and about and in control, enjoying life.
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Take Pride in Yourself If you can, go out and treat yourself to a new wardrobe, or new cosmetics, fragrances, shoes, whatever is your "thing".
The point here is that it's important that you don't let your appearance reflect how you feel.
In other words, don't let yourself go.
Quite the opposite in fact, try and create a "wow" factor in how you look.
It can be very tempting after a breakup to adopt a "sympathy" look.
In other words you stop making an effort as far as your appearance goes, hoping that other people will notice and enquire as to how you "really" are.
This is only natural, but the one person with whom it will probably have a negative effect is your ex.
To remain attractive and retain a certain mystique as far as your ex is concerned is to look and smell great.