I lost love we say, it is important to us to get back an ex lover.
Actually people are getting back together all the time, and from circumstances that might seem to be impossible to overcome.
Lovers have reunited after crime, imprisonment, abuse, drug and alcohol abuse, and have come together more deeply and inseparably than ever before.
Is it luck, is it a matter of camping out on their doorstep proclaiming your love daily until they come around, or is it a matter of knowing what you need to do and proceeding in an orderly manner back into the heart of your ex lover or spouse? Well I can tell you it is not a matter of luck, or pestering them with text messages, telephone calls, and email day after day until they relent; but it simply is a matter of taking your time, knowing what you're doing, and having faith in some of the basic behaviors of humanity.
Now if you really love him/her, I'm sure you'll take a moment to study what I am about to tell you here.
I should know; I have been in and out of love many times, but I know ultimately it is sincerity, patience and true love in your heart that will win the day.
Having said that, you need to understand and employ a few unconventional methods to get past the defenses of your ex lover, and make him/her almost beg to start dating you again.
First of all, you need to understand and affirm that you are a desirable, unique, and completely loveable man or woman; that you are quite a catch yourself, and that it is another person's loss that you are not their lover.
This gives you a magnetic, attractive, charisma that is simply impossible to resist.
Of course this means completely avoiding things like begging or pleading your ex to come back; that is the actions of a needy, very low self esteem, and desperate person, which is simply as unattractive as you can get; people want to be as far away from you as possible.
You have to stop telling your self and lamenting "I lost love.
" This also means you need to enforce the "no-contact" rule for about a month or so to build up that reserve of charisma that is going to immediately get under the skin of your ex lover, when you "innocently" ask them out for coffee.
Making a change in your hairstyle, spiffing up your wardrobe, and getting buff from an exercise program is part of the formula as well.
Basically, you need to prove to your ex that you are a confident, fit, and quite capable person; that you are very independent and don't "need" anybody.
This of course produces strong feelings of attraction in anybody, and most of all your ex lover.
"I lost love" can be quickly changed to "I have regained a lost love.
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