Like it or not, there's rules to everything in life.
Even down to the way you interact with your family; there's certain things that you simply don't do.
When it comes to break ups, these breaking up don'ts are vital.
If you want to maximize the chances of winning your ex back, make sure you follow these 5 breaking up don'ts.
Hey, and if you don't want your ex back, then simply break these rules! Rule #1: Don't Tell Them You Love Them - This is one of the most popular breaking up don'ts.
Why do people make this mistake all the time? I think it's a sub-conscious attempt at manipulation or persuasion.
You're trying to convince your ex to like you again.
Hey, you love them, and that's special, so they really SHOULD get back with you.
Right? Unfortunately, attraction doesn't work that way.
You know yourself that you can't pick if you're attracted to someone or not.
I'm sure if you could choose to stop liking your ex, things would be so much easier.
But we both know you can't do that.
The more you try to force this on them, the more they'll back off.
It's human instinct to run away from something that's chasing us.
Instead, take a step back and make them come after you.
Rule #2: Don't Put All Your Eggs In One Basket - Why not? Because when you drop the basket, all the eggs break.
For now, your ex doesn't want you.
We can change that.
But at this moment in time, you're not with them, so don't act like it.
If you refuse to go out, see other people, have casual sex, whatever...
then you're going to find following these breaking up don'ts difficult.
If you get out there and meet new people, it's going to be attractive to your ex no matter how much you screwed up during the relationship.
And hey, if you're lucky you'll find someone even better than your ex! Even if you don't, you'll be building attraction in your ex again.
Rule #3: You're Not James Bond - Don't spy on them, please.
Nothing screams more of insecurity.
You're going to irritate them and chase them away even further.
They're going to feel like you won't leave them alone and that you're trying to control them.
What comes under "spying"? Constantly calling them, especially if you use a lame excuse for doing so.
"Uh yeah, hey.
I er...
just wanted to let you know that you left your swimming cap over here.
Come get it, I'll leave you alone, promise!" That doesn't work if your partner has a clue.
Call them if it's urgent.
If they have a MySpace or whatever, stay off it.
Don't keep checking it to see if they have someone new.
Don't stalk it and check out any new friends they make.
If you're having a great recovery from the break up and then check their MySpace only to find a new photo of them kissing a new lover, you're going to send yourself all the way back to step one.
You're going to mess up your recovery completely, trust me on this.
Out of all the breaking up don'ts, this one is the most important.
I hope you will avoid these breaking up don'ts.
Winning your ex back is possible but before you focus on what you have to do, you need to eliminate any behavior that's holding you back.
I wish you the best.