Here"s What You Must Do to Overcome Cheating in a Marriage If You Want to Save Your Life
Cheating is bad, period.
It brings nothing but paid, shame, sorrow, sadness, disappointment, unwanted pregnancy, and (quite a number of times) sexually transmitted diseases (examples include but are not limited to, the following; AIDS, HIV, Syphilis, Staphylococcus, Gonorrhea, Hepatitis, and a host of others).
Statistics concerning the matter of infidelity are also negative.
Consider this; According to the Kinsey Institute, around 25 percent of men and 15 percent of women commit adultery during their marriages.
Nearly 25 to 50 percent of divorces involve adultery.
Nasty business this "cheating", if you ask me.
So what can be done about it - especially if you are already a victim and need to overcome it? Well, you need to first understand that moving past infidelity takes a lot of hard work and commitment to the marriage.
Nevertheless it is not impossible to achieve and the following tips will help you in your quest.
Read on...
Number 1 - Start by Eliminating any Disease Your marriage has already been hit hard - adding an untreatable disease to it would not help matters.
You need to go to the nearest health care center around you to get a full check up.
You can use the list above to decide what to check for.
Do a thorough check for STDs in particular.
Please you do not need base your decision to get medical help on your spouse' testimony about the use of condoms or not.
Just do the check up anyways - you have no clue yet where he / she has been.
Once you have verified that you are in good health, you need to make sure there is not risk of future infection by ensuring that that affair ends...
Number 2 - Make Sure the Affair Is Ended The problem with infidelity is that illicit sex is sweet - like stolen meat, it pervades your senses turns it into mush.
It will never cease to amaze me how many people prefer stolen sex.
You have your partner at home, he / she is passionate, sexually adventurous, and open minded, yet you still go out seeking for illicit sex; is it just me or are you plain stupid? Sweet or not - you need to ensure that the person your spouse was seeing is completely out of the picture.
Write him / her a letter, get a court order, do whatever it takes.
Like Nike would say; "just do it!" Number 3 - Take Some Time Out You need to clear your head.
Do not be afraid of taking out time to be by yourself.
Go and think this through.
But do not dwell on it negatively.
Do not end up blaming yourself for the affair committed by your partner.
That is a no - no.
Number 4 - Get a Marriage Counselor If you feel the need to, you could see a counselor by yourself first and then with your spouse later.
Bare your heart out to the counselor and begin the healing process.
Number 5 - Regain Your Trust Yes, you got hurt.
Yes, you were betrayed.
But it is now time to let it go.
Get reacquainted with your wife / husband.
Find a way to love him / her again.
He / she has not really changed - that is still the person you fell in love with in the first place.
Make it work.
It brings nothing but paid, shame, sorrow, sadness, disappointment, unwanted pregnancy, and (quite a number of times) sexually transmitted diseases (examples include but are not limited to, the following; AIDS, HIV, Syphilis, Staphylococcus, Gonorrhea, Hepatitis, and a host of others).
Statistics concerning the matter of infidelity are also negative.
Consider this; According to the Kinsey Institute, around 25 percent of men and 15 percent of women commit adultery during their marriages.
Nearly 25 to 50 percent of divorces involve adultery.
Nasty business this "cheating", if you ask me.
So what can be done about it - especially if you are already a victim and need to overcome it? Well, you need to first understand that moving past infidelity takes a lot of hard work and commitment to the marriage.
Nevertheless it is not impossible to achieve and the following tips will help you in your quest.
Read on...
Number 1 - Start by Eliminating any Disease Your marriage has already been hit hard - adding an untreatable disease to it would not help matters.
You need to go to the nearest health care center around you to get a full check up.
You can use the list above to decide what to check for.
Do a thorough check for STDs in particular.
Please you do not need base your decision to get medical help on your spouse' testimony about the use of condoms or not.
Just do the check up anyways - you have no clue yet where he / she has been.
Once you have verified that you are in good health, you need to make sure there is not risk of future infection by ensuring that that affair ends...
Number 2 - Make Sure the Affair Is Ended The problem with infidelity is that illicit sex is sweet - like stolen meat, it pervades your senses turns it into mush.
It will never cease to amaze me how many people prefer stolen sex.
You have your partner at home, he / she is passionate, sexually adventurous, and open minded, yet you still go out seeking for illicit sex; is it just me or are you plain stupid? Sweet or not - you need to ensure that the person your spouse was seeing is completely out of the picture.
Write him / her a letter, get a court order, do whatever it takes.
Like Nike would say; "just do it!" Number 3 - Take Some Time Out You need to clear your head.
Do not be afraid of taking out time to be by yourself.
Go and think this through.
But do not dwell on it negatively.
Do not end up blaming yourself for the affair committed by your partner.
That is a no - no.
Number 4 - Get a Marriage Counselor If you feel the need to, you could see a counselor by yourself first and then with your spouse later.
Bare your heart out to the counselor and begin the healing process.
Number 5 - Regain Your Trust Yes, you got hurt.
Yes, you were betrayed.
But it is now time to let it go.
Get reacquainted with your wife / husband.
Find a way to love him / her again.
He / she has not really changed - that is still the person you fell in love with in the first place.
Make it work.
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