Jealousy Sucks and What You Can Do About It
If you've ever been "taken over" by jealousy, you know how painful it can be to experience.
You probably have also lived the destructive effects that jealous fears and jealousy-induced behaviors can have on a love relationship or marriage.
But, as much as jealousy sucks, what can any of us do about it? When you are the one with the jealous habit, it might feel as if you have no control.
Your jealous emotions seem to be in command.
If it is your partner who tends to be jealous, you most definitely feel out of control.
After all, this is another person's reactions to you and your supposed behaviors.
There is actually a lot that you can do about jealousy.
We encourage you to take back control-- whether it is your partner who is jealous or it is you-- and start creating the jealousy-free relationship that you've always dreamed of.
Learn to read the signs.
As with many things, there are almost always signs that jealousy is about to rear its ugly head.
You just need to learn to tune in to those signs.
If you have a jealousy habit, start to pay attention to how it feels in your body during and, if possible, before jealousy seems to take control of you.
Some people feel a nausea or clenching in their abdominal area.
Others experience a tightening of the chest and possibly shoulders.
Get to know where jealousy appears to reside in your body.
If it is your partner who gets jealous, there may be particular words or phrases that he or she uses just before acting in ways that seem out of character or are disconnecting.
You might also notice particular body language cues such as: hunching in of the shoulders and back, pursed lips or a furrowed brow.
It's up to you to pay attention to the signals of jealousy.
Once you identify what these signals usually are, you can more easily address the jealousy when it's just beginning which can make it much more manageable.
You probably have also lived the destructive effects that jealous fears and jealousy-induced behaviors can have on a love relationship or marriage.
But, as much as jealousy sucks, what can any of us do about it? When you are the one with the jealous habit, it might feel as if you have no control.
Your jealous emotions seem to be in command.
If it is your partner who tends to be jealous, you most definitely feel out of control.
After all, this is another person's reactions to you and your supposed behaviors.
There is actually a lot that you can do about jealousy.
We encourage you to take back control-- whether it is your partner who is jealous or it is you-- and start creating the jealousy-free relationship that you've always dreamed of.
Learn to read the signs.
As with many things, there are almost always signs that jealousy is about to rear its ugly head.
You just need to learn to tune in to those signs.
If you have a jealousy habit, start to pay attention to how it feels in your body during and, if possible, before jealousy seems to take control of you.
Some people feel a nausea or clenching in their abdominal area.
Others experience a tightening of the chest and possibly shoulders.
Get to know where jealousy appears to reside in your body.
If it is your partner who gets jealous, there may be particular words or phrases that he or she uses just before acting in ways that seem out of character or are disconnecting.
You might also notice particular body language cues such as: hunching in of the shoulders and back, pursed lips or a furrowed brow.
It's up to you to pay attention to the signals of jealousy.
Once you identify what these signals usually are, you can more easily address the jealousy when it's just beginning which can make it much more manageable.
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