How can we save our marriage?Is everything we've worked so hard for going to disappear?Is there any hope at all for a couple like us?These are common questions couples who are experiencing marital problems ask on a regular basis.
Luckily, the answer is sometimes easier than you might think.
The Value of Recognition If you're asking "How can we save our marriage?" then you've made a very important step already.
You've realized that there is a problem, or a set of problems, that needs attention.
Recognizing that a problem exists is the first step to solving it.
Who is to Blame? Who is to blame for the problems you're experiencing within your marriage?The fact is, it's really not important to assign blame right now.
What you should do instead, is sit down with your partner and tell him or her, "We need to work to save our marriage" without pointing fingers at each other.
If your partner agrees, then you're ready to move forward together.
If your spouse disagrees, then you may need to start taking some steps toward repairing what you can, on your own, or coming to another conclusion.
Make Positive Changes Making positive changes can help tremendously, even if the changes you make seem small in comparison with the problems that you are facing.
It does no good to say, "Let's save our marriage" and then keep on behaving as you've done in the past.

• Physical Health - Maybe you've let yourselves fall into less-than healthy routines.
  If you're eating too much, watching too much TV, and settling for a sedentary lifestyle, get up and get moving, and do it together.
  The fact is, an important part of marriage is physical attraction.
  Working on fitness together can help change the way you view your partner.
  
• Mental Well Being -If you're looking at your spouse, and saying "We have to do something to save our marriage!" then you must take action right away.
  Think about how you behave - are you kind and loving, or are you mean and demanding?Do you do things to appreciate your partner, or do you take him or her for granted?The simple fact is, we've got to treat each other the way we would like to be treated.
  Be a good example for your spouse, and set a precedent by acting like a good husband or wife, yourself.
  

Don't Try To Do It On Your Own No matter what the problems in your relationship are, you have a better chance at saving your relationship if you seek professional marriage counseling.
One of the newest, best ways to take advantage of marriage counseling is via online marriage counseling.
Online marriage counseling is far from complicated - in fact, it's so easy to find a therapist you like, and get the help you need from the comfort of your own home, that more and more people just like you are taking advantage of all the benefits of therapy more often.
Best of all, online counseling is completely confidential - no one needs to know that your marriage is in trouble.