Winning back your ex can sometimes be a bit difficult to do, especially if you realized that you had taken them for granted.
It is so easy to get comfortable in a relationship and not truly appreciate what your spouse may have done for you.
It is actually quite easy to also start complaining about what they do not do for you and completely overlook all of there redeeming qualities.
Unfortunately, we do not realize this important tidbit until the relationship has come to an end.
Fortunately, though, over does not always been the end.
Getting an ex back can still be accomplished even if these things have crept into your relationship and ran it to the ground.
One of the first things you need to do is to make a list of all the positive things about your ex.
It is really easy to remember what these are especially when you remember how they were when you first started dating.
It is so easy to see all the wonderful things about the other person in the beginning.
There faults are still there, but we are falling in love and choose to focus on the positive.
Winning back your ex can be accomplished if you realize this.
You need to get that back by remembering all the great things about your ex.
Write them down on a sheet of paper.
You should have quite a bit of qualities written down, probably more than you expected.
Now, on another sheet of paper, write down all the negative things down.
Look at them carefully.
When you are done looking, remembering, and getting angry, rip up that sheet of paper and throw it away.
This is what we do mentally at the beginning of a relationship and that is what you need to do now.
You actually need to do this continually.
This will help you let go of the negative, focus on the positive and help you not to take your spouse for granted in the future.
This is really a key aspect to getting an ex back.
When you are finished with all of this, I want you to do the same thing, but on yourself.
It may seem a bit silly at first, but you would be amazed at how writing it all down makes it so real.
This will help you look in the mirror at yourself and make proper changes.
You should focus on what you need to change about yourself and not what your spouse needs to change.
If you do this, your significant other will see the changes in you and will also start changing.
These are the first steps you need to take to winning back your ex and end taking them for granted.
You now need to take the next steps to reach your reconciliation.
There are more things that need to get done and I strongly encourage you try them.
Once your ex realizes that you no longer intend to take them for granted, it will become easier and easier!