The pain of a break up is comparable to the loss of a loved one.
Yet, in a way they can be the same.
A break means a loss of a loved one.
Both create heart-breaking and life-shattering loss.
It is hard to heal from a break up? The hardest part of healing from a break up is the acceptance.
Acceptance means facing the reality of the break up.
Denial is easier to bear.
How can you accept that the relationship which you have built together is gone? Both of you have invested a lot of sweat, tears and laughter to build that relationship.
A lot of yourself is in that relationship.
Your dreams and your future are tied up with the relationship.
Can you still have your dreams and your future without the relationship? What about the years of shared happiness and sorrow? The laughter and companionship you have shared.
Bringing the children into this world and watching them grow together.
The hardships you have endured together.
What about those years you have toiled and saved to build that dream house together? Can you accept that it will be gone forever? Will the memories haunt you forever? You have cried a lot and lived like a hermit in the weeks after the break up.
The tears have helped a lot.
It has cleansed your soul and your mind.
It is easier to face reality after purging your soul of all the pain and denial.
Your mind is clear now.
You have started healing from a break up.
You can accept that everything is not gone.
The children are still there.
You are still here.
You still have your life to live.
All those years have not been wasted.
You had your share of laughter, fun, sorrow, tears, hardship and companionship.
The memories will remain as a part of your life.
You still have your dreams.
It did not die with the relationship.
It is time to move on.