Perfect Marriage Relationship
The other day a friend of mine asked me "do you think there is such a thing as a perfect marriage relationship?" I hesitated to answer him directly yes or no but went into deep thought and I decided to explore the issue with him.
Here are some of the thoughts that we stumbled upon during the course of our discussion.
-Definition: It is not something that can be attained rather it is a product of mutual understanding.
It begins with how partners defines it.
What would make them happy as long as they live together? What would constitute an imperfection in such a relationship according to them? What is it according to their terms? -Goals and aspirations of Marriage: A good marriage relationship would be defined on the borders of commonly shared aspirations and goals.
The achievement of such goals and aspirations would bring about mutual happiness and hence a 'perfect' marriage.
It gives basis for future endeavors and give it focus.
-Identifying the enemy: It is common knowledge that to be forewarned is to be forearmed.
When two people decide to get into a relationship, it is important to identify the common enemy for their marriage.
A relationship leading to marriage is more like a war-a commander in chief does not go to war until he/she has an idea of who the enemy is, where he is and how he looks like.
A perfect relationship will be defined on the basis of how best it is able to identify its common enemies on the same manner a commander in chief does during war.
-Setting own precedence: It is usually disaster when people enter into a relationship because of age, relatives or peer pressure, availability of money or I have to do it mentality as the determining factor.
A marriage has got to be uniquely defined and such a couple should aim at setting up a precedence to be followed, but they should not aim to follow.
Once each two people define what defines their marriage relationship they can go ahead and define their perfect marriage.
There you have the ideas, go ahead and define your own perfect marriage for only you can make your marriage perfect.
Here are some of the thoughts that we stumbled upon during the course of our discussion.
-Definition: It is not something that can be attained rather it is a product of mutual understanding.
It begins with how partners defines it.
What would make them happy as long as they live together? What would constitute an imperfection in such a relationship according to them? What is it according to their terms? -Goals and aspirations of Marriage: A good marriage relationship would be defined on the borders of commonly shared aspirations and goals.
The achievement of such goals and aspirations would bring about mutual happiness and hence a 'perfect' marriage.
It gives basis for future endeavors and give it focus.
-Identifying the enemy: It is common knowledge that to be forewarned is to be forearmed.
When two people decide to get into a relationship, it is important to identify the common enemy for their marriage.
A relationship leading to marriage is more like a war-a commander in chief does not go to war until he/she has an idea of who the enemy is, where he is and how he looks like.
A perfect relationship will be defined on the basis of how best it is able to identify its common enemies on the same manner a commander in chief does during war.
-Setting own precedence: It is usually disaster when people enter into a relationship because of age, relatives or peer pressure, availability of money or I have to do it mentality as the determining factor.
A marriage has got to be uniquely defined and such a couple should aim at setting up a precedence to be followed, but they should not aim to follow.
Once each two people define what defines their marriage relationship they can go ahead and define their perfect marriage.
There you have the ideas, go ahead and define your own perfect marriage for only you can make your marriage perfect.
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