If you have gone through or are currently going through a painful breakup, then you are probably trying to understand how to win back lost love.
Neither situation is easy to cope with, but both are certainly attainable.
Here are the 5 ways on how to win back lost love: 1.
You should examine the relationship you shared with your ex.
I mean thoroughly scrutinize it objectively.
Contemplate every aspect of it, the good and the bad parts even if this hurts you to do so, it has to be done.
You need to discover where it went wrong or started to go wrong.
Then think about how you would like to proceed with changing it.
Heck you may even come to the conclusion the breakup was a better idea than you first thought or you may still want to get back with your ex and if that's the case move on to step 2.
2.
You should apologize, even if you feel you've already done this several times, your ex may have thought you were doing it to avoid the breakup or they felt you weren't sincere enough when you did apologize.
So, apologizing again wouldn't hurt, especially if you were the one at fault for the breakup and believe me, they will think you are the one at fault.
So, don't even try to convince them that they need to take some responsibility, it won't happen and could result in a longer separation from one another.
So, if you're going to say, "I'm sorry", do it with sincerity so they know you truly mean it.
However, if their transgression was the reason the breakup happened, then move on to step 3.
3.
If you still want them back, you may have to forgive them.
Especially, if the relationship ended because your ex cheated.
This is when you'll have to search deep into your heart to forgive them.
This is a lot harder than mere words, because you may forgive, but you'll never forget.
Forgetting is the hard part.
If that's the case, you may want to consider picking up a book or two on how to really forgive a cheating partner and how to overcome the hurt.
Doing this step may help prevent any future problems with your relationship.
4.
Fix the problems first.
Once your ex and you have decided to give the relationship another go, you both need to work on fixing the problems that caused the breakup in the first place.
Otherwise, months down the road, you may find yourself in exactly the same situation but this time it may be permanent.
5.
Become the old you again.
Give them every reason to fall back in love with you all over again.
Remember the qualities that you had in the beginning the ones that drew them to you and made them fall in love with you.
Whatever it was do it again, if it worked the first time, then it can work a second time.