Rebounding from a break up with another relationship is difficult for many people to avoid.
The temptation is to get back the emotional closeness and connection you've just lost.
It's a powerful pull and one that many people are simply unable to resist.
The problem with rebound relationships is that they aren't the true emotional connection you're seeking.
Real love grows over time and one step leads to the next.
With rebound relationships, many initial steps that rule out people who aren't a good match for you are skipped and you wake up one day to realize that neither of you are really happy with the situation.
The other problem is that it feels like love, walks like love, and talks like love.
It's just not love.
The difference is that when it ends, there's the pang of loss but not the deep down soul wrenching pain you felt from the initial breakup that brought you to this point.
How do you avoid the rebound problem? You don't dive into the next relationship.
You give yourself time to go through all the stages of grieving and healing.
Once you know you're ready to move on then you make the move and start dating casually.
Avoid intense emotional entanglements for a while and date different people to find out what it is you're looking for and what you have to offer.
Remember that a rebound relationship isn't always a bad thing.
If you do find someone you think is "the one" while you are dealing with the aftermath of a break up go slow.
Don't rush.
Don't push.
Don't go in head over heels and you might find that it really is the one.
If you go too far too fast though you might miss important clues that would have let you know much sooner that this is Mr.
or Miss Wrong-for-You.