There's no doubt that getting over a breakup is difficult.
Regardless of what anyone might say, getting dumped can be extremely emotional.
Those who say it isn't are either trying to cheer you up, or they have never experienced it themselves.
However, it isn't as gloomy as it may appear.
You do have choices, and you can get your ex back if you follow a proven plan and make the right moves.
If you're able to do this, you'll be further ahead than 90% of other people.
Don't worry if everything you have tried has failed.
It just means that you haven't made the right moves.
Here are a few proven steps you can take right now to start the ball rolling: The first step is probably the most obvious, yet it is likely causing most of your grief.
If you're guilty of harassing your ex with text messages, e-mails, or phone calls, then you know how damaging this kind of behavior can be.
Why do we do it? It likely all comes down to emotion - or our inability to control our emotions.
If you allow yourself to be led around by what you feel, instead of what you think, you are in for a rough ride.
In short, you have to stop contacting your ex obsessively.
The reason this does so much damage is that people don't react very well to desperation.
Sure, they might feel sorry for you, and you might get a little pity, but who needs that? What good does it really do if your ex feels sorry for you? It certainly isn't going to spark attraction - and that's what you desperately need at this point.
After you've managed to break free from your cell phone, you may start feeling a little better about yourself.
It's tough when you're contacting someone and getting nothing in return.
At this point, you're going to want to forget about your ex for a bit.
Not only will this give you time to concentrate on your own life, but you're going to be showing your ex that you are self-sufficient and a whole lot more confident than they gave you credit for.
Take this time to start a new hobby, get that promotion, lose weight, or any other activity that is going to directly benefit you.
At the same time, make sure you have an active social life.
Hang out with friends, make new friends, or even date casually - and stop thinking about your ex.
The best part of all this is that you are going to start getting the attention of your ex.
How could they not notice how you're getting on with your life in such a spectacular way.
In fact, don't be surprised if they start feeling attraction towards you and even start phoning you at some point.