Tips For Maintaining a Meaningful Relationship
What makes a relationship meaningful? It is one that makes you want to become a better person and it is one that drives you to be the best you can be to complement and make the relationship even better.
It can begin on a very romantic level but it does not guarantee that it will stay there.
In the more committed levels such as marriages and nuclear families it becomes more inherent, but if the tender shoots of being related to each other are not nurtured, that too can fall apart.
In very close friendships, it is even much easier to miss out on.
I remember reading somewhere that "marriages are made in heaven but the maintenance but must be done on earth.
" I can't help but agree to whoever said that.
I would even toss another log into the fire and say that in all types of relationships, most especially the more meaningful ones, maintenance has to be done.
Or just like a new machine that is never oiled or cleaned, it can get very rusty and before we know it, may soon break.
Maintenance is indeed necessary especially for relationships.
Here are some tips for maintaining a meaningful relationship.
1.
Get to know him/her/them more and more.
Relationships take time to grow.
Engage yourself to get to know him/her/them more and more.
Get to know both the major and even trivial things that make them tick? How do they like their coffee or beverages? Do they prefer their eggs sunny side up or scrambled with salt and pepper? What do they most enjoy? What are they most passionate about? What offends them? What brings them to tears? It may take years for you to actually learn about them, but it will be worth the journey! 2.
Spend valuable and quality time with each other.
Are your best hours spent on your job or hobby such that you are actually too tired to even be polite to him/her/them? Be extra sensitive on what you exert your best efforts on.
Save your best energies to engage in your most meaningful relationships.
3.
Solicit suggestions and criticisms.
Be sincere in wanting to know, in what areas you can be improved as a person.
Be prepared because you may not want to know what you will hear.
You want to be the best version of yourself.
4.
Be quick to apologize.
Remind yourself again that you are human and have your own faults.
Say sorry out loud and be sincere about it.
Apologizing or admitting you have erred never diminishes your value as a person.
5.
Love them unconditionally.
Do not expect he/she/them to return any favors that you are doing for them.
That is not the reason you love them.
You just do.
Forgive them of their faults.
Remind yourself again that he/she/they are human too and have their own faults as well.
Be quick to forgive whether they apologize or not.
6.
Verbalize your affection regularly.
When was the last time you actually said, "I love you?" Say it frequently and mean it.
It can begin on a very romantic level but it does not guarantee that it will stay there.
In the more committed levels such as marriages and nuclear families it becomes more inherent, but if the tender shoots of being related to each other are not nurtured, that too can fall apart.
In very close friendships, it is even much easier to miss out on.
I remember reading somewhere that "marriages are made in heaven but the maintenance but must be done on earth.
" I can't help but agree to whoever said that.
I would even toss another log into the fire and say that in all types of relationships, most especially the more meaningful ones, maintenance has to be done.
Or just like a new machine that is never oiled or cleaned, it can get very rusty and before we know it, may soon break.
Maintenance is indeed necessary especially for relationships.
Here are some tips for maintaining a meaningful relationship.
1.
Get to know him/her/them more and more.
Relationships take time to grow.
Engage yourself to get to know him/her/them more and more.
Get to know both the major and even trivial things that make them tick? How do they like their coffee or beverages? Do they prefer their eggs sunny side up or scrambled with salt and pepper? What do they most enjoy? What are they most passionate about? What offends them? What brings them to tears? It may take years for you to actually learn about them, but it will be worth the journey! 2.
Spend valuable and quality time with each other.
Are your best hours spent on your job or hobby such that you are actually too tired to even be polite to him/her/them? Be extra sensitive on what you exert your best efforts on.
Save your best energies to engage in your most meaningful relationships.
3.
Solicit suggestions and criticisms.
Be sincere in wanting to know, in what areas you can be improved as a person.
Be prepared because you may not want to know what you will hear.
You want to be the best version of yourself.
4.
Be quick to apologize.
Remind yourself again that you are human and have your own faults.
Say sorry out loud and be sincere about it.
Apologizing or admitting you have erred never diminishes your value as a person.
5.
Love them unconditionally.
Do not expect he/she/them to return any favors that you are doing for them.
That is not the reason you love them.
You just do.
Forgive them of their faults.
Remind yourself again that he/she/they are human too and have their own faults as well.
Be quick to forgive whether they apologize or not.
6.
Verbalize your affection regularly.
When was the last time you actually said, "I love you?" Say it frequently and mean it.
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