Getting dumped sucks.
You're sad, depressed, lonely and hopeless...
and to top all off, you're still trying to think up ways you can get your ex to take you back.
Wanting your boyfriend or girlfriend back is a good thing.
Trying to do it while your mind is a jumbled mess of negative emotions is not.
And this, my friend, is why so many people fail when it comes to getting back together again.
Learning how to get back an ex boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't take a college degree.
It's not rocket science, and it doesn't require a lot of thought.
In fact, the less thought you put into it...
the better off you'll probably be.
The techniques that work best at making your ex want you again are often the most simple ones of all.
The problem is, because you're not thinking rationally just after being dumped, you begin cooking up more and more complex methods to repair your break up.
After your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you, they want some time off.
They need to reconcile their feelings, and they need to do this on their own.
Outside influence, especially from you, is their worst nightmare.
Which is why bombarding your ex with phone calls, text messages, or emails - mere hours after he or she breaks up with you - is always a really bad move.
The more contact you make with your ex, the worse you're making the situation.
At first they'll be annoyed, then they'll think you're desperate, and finally they're going to get angry with what you're doing.
The effect snowballs out of control, too.
The more you get rejected, the harder it is to accept things for what they are.
This causes you to push even harder for some type of positive response from your ex, and in turn this generates an even bigger negative attitude.
Traditional methods of getting your ex back don't work either, except in the movies.
Writing long letters of picking out beautiful cards isn't going to reverse your ex's way of thinking.
In fact, such things mark you as being totally desperate...
working against you in the long run.
The time for romance was when you were dating your boyfriend or girlfriend - not after they've dumped you.
Pulling that stuff now comes off as lame and contrived, and your ex knows you're only doing it to get them back in your life again.
With the window of opportunity for reconciliation constantly closing, you don't have the time to make these critical mistakes.
Turning your back on your ex and moving on with your life is one of the first moves you should be making to get them back.
While that seems completely opposite of what you should be (or have been) doing, it's actually the one thing your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend doesn't expect.
He or she will immediately wonder why you haven't called, written, or tried to get in touch with them.
They'll even start thinking that maybe you've moved on, or that there's something wrong with the relationship from your end because suddenly you seem to have lost interest.
It's one of the simplest rules of love: When you stop chasing someone, they will immediately stop running.
And when you begin walking away, they will eventually turn around and start to follow you.
Opening moves like this set the stage for later methods where you can contact and reconnect with your ex on your own terms, not theirs.